sassiex Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 been with mm over a year now ! relationship is very intense ! we love one another thta obvious ! actions speak so much louder than words! so happy when we are together.....sad and miserable when we are apart !! hes never made me any promises .....and i totally respect him for that ! does not stop me wondering though! what will become of us??? help x:lmao:
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 One Year? That's A Long Time Without A Promise To Take U To Happy Valley For Easter! Looks Like He Doesn't See How Much U Are Putting In To The Relationship And Taking You For Granted. Maybe U Are Giving Him To Much Respect...do Something To Shake Him Out Of It And Miss U....maybe Call Him And Tell Him You Are Picking Up Lunch And Will Be Right Over, And Then Just Don't Show Up [i Hear That Guy That Works In The Food Court Takes His Lunch By Himself - Wink]
amaysngrace Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 been with mm over a year now ! hes never made me any promises .....and i totally respect him for that ! Um...no offense but get your head out of your arse. How can you respect someone whom you've been with for over a year and has yet to make you any promises? Oh yeah, I got it...it's impossible to give respect to others when you have none for yourself... Please, for your own good, step back and see the obvious.
outofdarkness Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 been with mm over a year now ! relationship is very intense ! we love one another thta obvious ! actions speak so much louder than words! so happy when we are together.....sad and miserable when we are apart !! hes never made me any promises .....and i totally respect him for that ! does not stop me wondering though! what will become of us??? help x:lmao: there are no happy endings when it comes to A's...however it ends, it's a long, tedious and time consuming process to heal...He is using you and being dishonest with both you and his W...Don't prolong the agony and get on with your life now...minus the MM.
Author sassiex Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Um...no offense but get your head out of your arse. How can you respect someone whom you've been with for over a year and has yet to make you any promises? Oh yeah, I got it...it's impossible to give respect to others when you have none for yourself... Please, for your own good, step back and see the obvious. i find your comments a little harsh!! my head is not up my arse !! i do respect my self !!! 100 's of mm make lodes of promises and they never keep them !!!! "oh yes im definately leaving her , i want a life with you " blah blah blah !! catch my drift??? my mm treats me very well !!!! and has never let me down !! and as for the other comment.....hes using you !! if he was using me......he would not take to restaurants local to wear we live , and be so open with his affections in public , call me and text me every day, buy me stuff , pay my car insurance shall i go on !!! just a little harsh and not the advise i am looking for!!! maybe us english r a little different !!!
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 No And It's Only A Matter Of Time Before You See Who He Really Is And Your World Falls Apart!!!! Get Out Now!
amaysngrace Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 i do respect my self !!! Um, okay. If you say so. Carry on then. And keep wishing for the happy ending.
PoshPrincess Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 i find your comments a little harsh!! my head is not up my arse !! i do respect my self !!! 100 's of mm make lodes of promises and they never keep them !!!! "oh yes im definately leaving her , i want a life with you " blah blah blah !! catch my drift??? my mm treats me very well !!!! and has never let me down !! and as for the other comment.....hes using you !! if he was using me......he would not take to restaurants local to wear we live , and be so open with his affections in public , call me and text me every day, buy me stuff , pay my car insurance shall i go on !!! just a little harsh and not the advise i am looking for!!! maybe us english r a little different !!! I agree that those comments were harsh and not particularly constructive. I don't agree that your MM is using you as such, as he has obviously let you know where you stand by not making you any promises that he doesn't feel he can keep. But what people are saying here in the main is true. It's a whole lot of heartache and really not worth the pain. Take it from someone who knows! Yes, there are exceptions, I know of a couple myself, but there's still pain for someone, even if it's not you, ie the wife & kids, if there are any, which ends up hurting your MM and consequently could affect you and your R with him if you ever do end up together. You have to work out whether you can handle all that. It's too late to warn you not to get involved as you already seem to have fallen hook, line and sinker. If you are going to continue this A make sure you do it with your eyes well and truly open and, even if he does start making you promises, as my ex-MM did it doesn't mean he will carry them through. Circumstances have a way of changing all that. That doesn't make him a complete b****d; in these situations we all just seem to get carried away with the moment. Just take care and, most importantly, look after yourself! Be prepared for all the heartache that you will experience in the pretty likely event that this will end one day
Joelle Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Truthfully, I can't predict how your A will turn out. Only time will tell. However, based on my life observations, some A's do work out. I've observed three A's leading to happy long marriages. On the flip side, I've observed A's ending badly as well, especially here in this forum. So anything can happen, I guess. Good luck.
reneet Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 been with mm over a year now ! relationship is very intense ! we love one another thta obvious ! actions speak so much louder than words! so happy when we are together.....sad and miserable when we are apart !! hes never made me any promises .....and i totally respect him for that ! does not stop me wondering though! what will become of us??? help x:lmao: Did you ever ask him what will become of your relationship?
Author sassiex Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Did you ever ask him what will become of your relationship? i hardly feel it was necessary to call me a moron! firstly you dont know me ! you do not know my mm !!!! i asked for advice not to called names !!! now whos the MORON !!!!!!!!!!!
Author sassiex Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 I agree that those comments were harsh and not particularly constructive. I don't agree that your MM is using you as such, as he has obviously let you know where you stand by not making you any promises that he doesn't feel he can keep. But what people are saying here in the main is true. It's a whole lot of heartache and really not worth the pain. Take it from someone who knows! Yes, there are exceptions, I know of a couple myself, but there's still pain for someone, even if it's not you, ie the wife & kids, if there are any, which ends up hurting your MM and consequently could affect you and your R with him if you ever do end up together. You have to work out whether you can handle all that. It's too late to warn you not to get involved as you already seem to have fallen hook, line and sinker. If you are going to continue this A make sure you do it with your eyes well and truly open and, even if he does start making you promises, as my ex-MM did it doesn't mean he will carry them through. Circumstances have a way of changing all that. That doesn't make him a complete b****d; in these situations we all just seem to get carried away with the moment. Just take care and, most importantly, look after yourself! Be prepared for all the heartache that you will experience in the pretty likely event that this will end one day THANKS FOR YPUR ADVICE , TAKEN ON BOARD!! as for promises , time will tell, makes it so hard when you love someone so much........its hard but i will be ok !! both of us will never be the same afterthis affair....if it comes to an end x
amaysngrace Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 i hardly feel it was necessary to call me a moron! firstly you dont know me ! you do not know my mm !!!! i asked for advice not to called names !!! now whos the MORON !!!!!!!!!!! Reneet's signature says moron to everyone. It wasn't directed at you at all. In fact, she seems quite supportive of you. Just so you know, every time she posts that same phrase comes up. See the line?
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Just so you know, every time she posts that same phrase comes up. That's the funniest thing I have seen...ever!!!! Okay, maybe not. And reneet - if you're reading this - you're inspiring me to not be stupid.
reneet Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 i hardly feel it was necessary to call me a moron! firstly you dont know me ! you do not know my mm !!!! i asked for advice not to called names !!! now whos the MORON !!!!!!!!!!! Excuse me. That's a signature quote. Not directed to anyone.
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Um...no offense but get your head out of your arse. You respect him? Maybe he skipped his wedding vows...or more likely he just had his fingers crossed. Works for me.
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 i find your comments a little harsh!! my head is not up my arse !! i do respect my self !!! 100 's of mm make lodes of promises and they never keep them !!!! "oh yes im definately leaving her , i want a life with you " blah blah blah !! catch my drift??? my mm treats me very well !!!! and has never let me down !! and as for the other comment.....hes using you !! if he was using me......he would not take to restaurants local to wear we live , and be so open with his affections in public , call me and text me every day, buy me stuff , pay my car insurance shall i go on !!! just a little harsh and not the advise i am looking for!!! maybe us english r a little different !!! OK, I'll try to say this without harsh words. Taking you places and buying you things does not mean he is not using you. Seems he is very happy having his cake and eating it too. You are allowing him to do this. You must realized that he is lying to his wife and probably to you as well. Having sex with a married man means that you don't have enough respect for yourself to wait until he has decided what he wants to do about his marriage. You say actions speak louder than words. His actions are screaming. You know what they call women who have sex and then get their bills paid? I don't think I need to give you the answer. You are asking what will come from your relationship. He has already told you the answer - NOTHING.
Dayzie Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Truthfully, I can't predict how your A will turn out. Only time will tell. However, based on my life observations, some A's do work out. I've observed three A's leading to happy long marriages. On the flip side, I've observed A's ending badly as well, especially here in this forum. So anything can happen, I guess. Good luck. Same here, I was one of the few whose A with a MM ended happily, we've been together for a while now and are getting married next year. Neither of us have been happier.
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Same here, I was one of the few whose A with a MM ended happily, we've been together for a while now and are getting married next year. Neither of us have been happier. Am curious to know what your circumstances were to have it work in your favor as I have been seeing a mm for the last nine months and hoping/wishing for a future. Did he leave his wife or did she leave him? I was a mw when we started our affair but now legally separated. Reality tells me that there will be no happy ending and have thought about backing off. Unless we run into each other at the gym, I do not/will not contact him.
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Same here, I was one of the few whose A with a MM ended happily, we've been together for a while now and are getting married next year. Neither of us have been happier. THANK YOU 4 THAT with all this negative feedback ive been getting im feeling pretty low x glad it worked out for you would love to know your story
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 THANK YOU 4 THAT with all this negative feedback ive been getting im feeling pretty low x glad it worked out for you would love to know your story So, I'm confused here. Please tell me how a relationship that started as a lie can really work out? He either lied to you about being married and or lied to his wife about you. Either way he is a proven lier. What makes you think he is being truthful in your relationship? I know that you will say that you are different, that your relationship is different, but how do you know for sure? Can you say that you trust him completely? I'm sure his wife thought that he was being honest when he took the marriage vows. An honest person ends one relationship before they start a new one. What will happen when he gets bored or needs to stoke his ego some more? How will you know?
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I, too, know of several As that ended up working out. One of them was my sister's husband and his girlfriend who he met at work. The divorce is final. He left her and the kids and is with the gf openly now. I also know a couple who met at the school where my husband teaches. They were both married and his wife worked at the school as well. They are married and very happily, I might add. My other sister left her husband because she hooked up with a married man who ultimately never left his wife. My sister is happy she is divorced but is with a totally different guy now. Things didn't work out with the MM. I think that those who post here are disproportionately involved in relationships that are not working out. that is why they are seeking solace on an Internet forum.
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