Summer2000 Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Since I got dumped by a man that I love about a month and a half ago, do you think it is bad to date someone else so soon? I am only doing this as to get over my ex.. Does this make me bad? Is this normal?
cpt101 Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 No real problem with that I guess. Especially if he dumped you. Just be careful not to lead this new guy on, dont confuse mixed up feelings for this new guy unless they are 100% accurate, until then be honest with him.
jimmy20013 Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Since I got dumped by a man that I love about a month and a half ago Sorry about that. , do you think it is bad to date someone else so soon? If you are not over your ex then I would say yes. I am only doing this as to get over my ex.. Does this make me bad? Is this normal? I am going to be harsh here. The desire to have a rebound relationship is normal but actually going out and getting into one knowingly does make you a bad person.
D-Lish Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 It doesn't make you a bad person Summer- it makes you human. As long as you're straight up with this new guy about where your head and heart is- it's all good. Dating is part of the process of moving on. Who knows- you may find comfort and even find yourself liking this new guy. After all the heartache you've been through- you deserve some happiness in your life- and sitting at home pining away for a jerk isn't healthy. I've had some dates since breaking up with my ex almost two months ago..and I find it helps me to get out there and meet new people. It has helped me to feel desired again- and that is good for the damaged ego. So, go for it. D
Heart66 Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 People don't LOOK for rebound relationships--they occur thru the process of trying to move on. You go out with someone new because you need to move on. Its not a matter of saying "Hmmm...I think I'll intentionally go out and screw over some innocent person today!" Sometimes we go out with someone new thinking we are truly ready to move forward. It is only then that we realize we aren't truly over the ex. So No, I don't think youre a bad person for wanting to date and move on from the person who hurt you. And, it sounds that the break up wasn't YOUR choice or doing, so all you can do is move on. Really think it thru. If youre not over the ex, then stress to the new person before you go out that you are taking things slow due to a recent heartache. That way, if you by chance end up hurting the new person, they will have gone into it knowing the real deal. But I agree that it isnt fair to USE someone new if you know youre not ready to move on. Good luck, and trust that the pain you are in won't last forever.
Author Summer2000 Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 I did let the guy know upfront that I am not over my ex just yet and I would like to take things slow.. I feel kind of bad, since this guy is really nice, but whenever I am out with him, I think of my ex a lot.. The break up with my ex was not my doing, it was his and he used me for a whole year for sex, when I thought he cared for me.. So I am hurting kind of bad and I just want someone to want me again.. I know that sounds bad, but I am sick of sitting at home crying about my ex when there is nothing I can do to change the matter.. He does not want me and does not love me and he will never love me ( that came out of his mouth ).. So I did not know if this was normal or not.. I am usually not one to date right after a break up, but I am having a really hard time with this break up and I just needed to get my mind off him and on to something else.. I hope this makes sense.. Summer
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