Going on drought and feeling depressed/lonely.

[mixwell]

Okay basically got out of a 7 year relationship with the ex g/f almost 2 years ago. I have hooked up and dated on and off and the last girl I hooked up with/dated was almost a year ago (longest drought I have ever had with a girl). Sometimes when I am not doing anything our outside smoking I start to get depressed about not having a girlfriend/female companion.

 

Something makes me feel like a loser because of me going this long without dating/hooking up. Don't get me wrong I'm not just talking about getting some but I mean going out with a girl and doing something fun. I am 23 and work at an ice cream place at the moment (moved out of state for a few months to help family relocate so got this job to kill time/ pay CC's and meet people). I don't really know anyone out here other than family and met a few cool guys at work.

 

I am just curious if anyone else has had these feelings before. Like I said its only the times when I am alone thinking about things but it then makes me think about my ex and makes me really miss all the things that you get with a girlfriend..

 

I know I have been told that they will come when you aren't looking for it but I guess im just want to know that I'm not alone and things will get better.

 

 

Thanks in advance,

 

Peace

[Guest]

welcome to the club..

[laguy10]

You are on a well-traveled road....my advice to you would be to use the frustration you feel as motivation to educate yourself about what you don't understand. If you just stay depressed and frustrated, you won't make any progress....if you can turn it into energy and drive, you'll be truly amazed at what is possible. Sit down, and figure out 3 questions you want answers to, regarding this area. Then, sit down, and figure out 3 places you can turn for each question, to get it answered. Then, set out to work. This has lots of benefits, but one not-so-obvious one is that it will distract you, while simultaneously increasing your knowledge, and therefore your competence, and therefore your confidence - which women will pickup on. Good luck.