luvtoto Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Had a co-worker walk-out of her job three weeks ago. Guess who gets to fill her shoes?! On TOP of my already busy schedule at work?! Me. Because I am efficient and can get the job done right...says my boss. Then, come home from a hard/stressful day at work to a messy house. Where are my kids? At friends houses playing. Ask them to help and they throw a fit. I am TIRED of being everything to everybody and it's gonna stop NOW. Don't care anymore. I've reached my brinking point. NO MORE!! I am tired of being taken for granted by people that couldn't give a crap. I went in my children's rooms and took their stereo's, TV's, and any other electrical device. They need to earn it back. That's just tough now isn't it? Not sure how to handle my boss, though. But, I am wasting my entire night worrying how I am gonna do two jobs FT. I'm done.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 too bad for you that you got rid of the housecleaning bf
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 too bad for you that you got rid of the housecleaning bf You know just the right thing to say. Doesn't anyone take you for granted?
Author luvtoto Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 too bad for you that you got rid of the housecleaning bf I am not in the mood to figure out what that is supposed to mean. Please explain.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I am not in the mood to figure out what that is supposed to mean. Please explain. didn't you dump some guy who lived with his mom and did your laundry etc
Author luvtoto Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 didn't you dump some guy who lived with his mom and did your laundry etc Why would you bring that up? How is that helping me now?
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 It's tough being taken for granted. I wish I could relate - but I'm kind of always on the other end of the situation. I suck people dry. But, like any successful parasite, it would be just plain silly to kill my hosts. I recognise that I'm happier when they're happy too. Is your boss easy to talk to? Would you prefer your boss to ease your burden, or give you a payrise? Anyway, just think - it could be worse. Okay, maybe not.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Why would you bring that up? How is that helping me now? it's not helping you now...that's my point
Author luvtoto Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 It's tough being taken for granted. I wish I could relate - but I'm kind of always on the other end of the situation. I suck people dry. But, like any successful parasite, it would be just plain silly to kill my hosts. I recognise that I'm happier when they're happy too. Is your boss easy to talk to? Would you prefer your boss to ease your burden, or give you a payrise? Anyway, just think - it could be worse. Okay, maybe not. Thanks magichands. I really appreciate your support. I mean, I thought that's what LS is all about. Some people think it's a place to be rude & sarcastic. Successful parasite..haha! That's pretty funny. Is my boss easy to talk to? Well, just last week he told me when she quit that I wouldn't have to do all her work. They were going to hire someone else. Three weeks later, he still hasn't hired someone and isn't even looking yet. Because I am "being a trooper" and doing it all! Sure, I will help out, but NOT PERMANENTLY. Sure, I will give 110% but not everyday. I am sooo far behind in my regular work. But, my boss told a couple other coworkers that I am efficient enough to handle things. GRRRR!!! Total 180. I've already tried to have a sensible convo with him, but he lied to me. Basically. He just told me what I wanted to hear. Nothing close to the truth. I can't handle all the pressure and responsiblity. Let alone, being a single mother on top of things. My kids did end up cleaning later tonight. But, I had to throw a fit to get it done. Will I have to throw a fit with my boss?
Author luvtoto Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 it's not helping you now...that's my point I am tired and stressed out, burning 4 revenge. Please go be cute and sarcastic on someone else's thread.
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Will I have to throw a fit with my boss? It's either that, or lay on the sex appeal. I say go with the fit. I have some whipped cream here, and if you do it right it looks like foaming at the mouth. I can't believe I eat it straight from the can. Sick.
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Please go be cute and sarcastic on someone else's thread. He's cute?! No wonder he gets all the girls' attention.
Author luvtoto Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 I have some whipped cream here, and if you do it right it looks like foaming at the mouth. Thanks for making me laugh, magichands...
Author luvtoto Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Ya know what pisses me of the most about my situation at work? When my coworker walked out that day, I went into kick-ass mode. I wanted to help everyone out, and I worked my ass off to get things done. Now, three weeks later, still busting my ass, and I get thanked by being lied to by my boss and taken for granted. Why should I even care anymore? Now, if throw a fit tomorrow to my boss, I will erase all the hard work I did...and my boss will lose respect for me. How can I tell my boss "hell no!" without looking like a bad employee?
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Now, if throw a fit tomorrow to my boss, I will erase all the hard work I did...and my boss will lose respect for me. I thought the problem is that your boss doesn't respect you. Or, at least, your boss isn't showing you that they appreciate your efforts beyond the normal call of duty (or shows any appreciation at all!?). Put a whoopee cushion on their chair. And tell your boss that you're sick of people talking out of their arse. What about the direct approach. As in, I'm trying to do the best job I can, but it's really overwhelming. Do you expect me to bear the burden of the extra work? I'm trying to do my darndest for the company, but I'm a bit scared of how I will continue to be "rewarded" for my efforts. When you downsized, my ulcers got upsized.
Kenyth Posted October 29, 2006 Posted October 29, 2006 The easiest solution is to simply not do the work. When the boss comes around as he certainly will, tell him that you're already busy with something. Tell him you'll be glad to switch tasks for him. Have him prioritize your duties and do them at a pace you feel is reasonable. He will have to help micromanage to get things done. You have to get someone involved with the mess before they will have a desire to help clean it up. If you happily accept the work of two people and never dissent, they will keep it that way. Feel free to work hard though. Hard work can be rewarded with good raises. With one less body, there may be some money in the budget to go around.
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