jmargel Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 Want to find out his password? http://www.kmint21.com/keylogger/ Is a good keylogger program. He won't know it's installed. Just read the setup directions.
Author Bufzookie Posted November 7, 2006 Author Posted November 7, 2006 I cant use the key logger cause he is in Iraq! So.....I guess i'm stuck not knowing the password to the account. Its not like I'm missing out on any info....I already know truth about his cheating....I wouldnt be finding out any new information. just more pain and lies! Thank you so much though!! On an update, I got a call from him a few days ago, and I just broke down and cryed. Mostly about the STD news. I know its treatable and such.....but I was devistated. It could have been much worse! He swears he didn't physically cheat......well the proof found.....and still he refuses to be honest! I just don't know what to say to him anymore.
hardrock Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 Well, him not fessing up to his actions that preluded the bact infection shows he's not ready to be radically honest with you. He's still cake eating and keeping you strung out, telling you what he thinks you need to hear. When is he due back home? Do you have a plan for that? I know you still have feelings for him, and will probably have to learn the hard way like the rest of us. Be careful. Sometimes you just need to say enough is enough and protect that boundary at all costs. I'm waiting for you to get to that point. Keep the chin up regardless.
Author Bufzookie Posted November 11, 2006 Author Posted November 11, 2006 Well, he is due back for R&R (for two weeks) in February. I really don't have a plan for anything. Frankly, I have no clue what I should say to him. On one hand, I am very upset at him. Disapointed and very angry. I would love to give him a piece of my mind! But then.....he is coming home from a very dangerous place in Iraq. Where many soldiers from Hawaii that he knows....are dying. I want to give some compation but he puts me in such a difficult possition! I wish I knew what to do about it. I'm afraid for him being in such terrible place....but then I'm hurt by him constantly and often times find myself wanting to just tell him to never come home again. The most important person out of all of this is my daughter! I want, very badly for her to have a stable home situation. With both mom and dad around. but the question is....is it worthy of my self worth to just pretent everything is okay? I know plenty of women who are on there own with a child. I have no place to go even if I said enough was enough today!! That is not an excuse.....it very true. Where would I start? Its hard to know that the person that I love can do the things that he has. I know my story must be like any other married women with a cheating husband. I am though, very young and have no footing into anything. I am far away from home.....I can't go back either and I'm very scared of the unknown. This is not how I wanted to end up. Another statistic of devorce. One day.......whenever that shall be, that my husband feels the deepest remorse for his infidelity's. Its going to be a very lonly road if he continues to do this to everyone he cares about.
Author Bufzookie Posted November 18, 2006 Author Posted November 18, 2006 So.......I come on here to get support and such....but no one is writing! please....I'm still very desperate for help!
Guestxyz Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 For your child's sake, leave the guy. He's a deviant and will sooner or later give you HIV or mess you up so badly that you will never get your head straight. Firstly, take out money from the account a bit at a time so it looks like weekly or monthly expenses. When you've stashed away enough somewhere safe like an untraceable safety deposit box, get a good lawyer. Sue him for divorce and all the assets you can get from him so that you're able to support yourself and your child for a little while until you can get back onto your feet. I hope you have documented proof of his infidelities. Good luck because you're going to need it. This guy is psycho.
panpan Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 I feel for you. Most people on this board won't have any idea what you are going through on the military side of your house. Unless you've lived it, you cannot begin to understand it. I'm formr Army and Marines and now the civilian spouse of an Iraqi veteran. I know you don't need to hear this but here goes: Any issues that you had before Iraq our going to be exponentially bigger when he comes home. If he comes home with PTSD or other combat related issues, it is going to be even worse. I'm not trying to scare you but you need to prepare yourself for all of this before he comes back. 1st - Decide if you are going to stick it out and to try and work it out. Seek help through ACS or your chaplain. (Stay away from your Family Readiness Group - can't remember what its called in the Marines and Navy) Come up with a plan. if the plan doesn't work - run away - don't just walk away. 2nd - Be prepared for the issues to be worse when he comes back. My experience has been very similar to yours but it all happened when my wife came back from Iraq. Remember, OIF, changes people. Its the whole living on the edge every day thing. 3rd - Find a family member or friend out of HI that you can reach out or run to. If its worse when he gets back and you decided to pull the plug, you need to leave. His command won't let him follow for more than a couple of weeks of leave so you should be OK. I agree with the others. You are young and have a whole life ahead of you. It may be tough for a few months but you can land in any city and start your life over. I have three kids so that isn't possible and I just have to live through this. You have options! Take care of yourself.
hardrock Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 How is everything going? Are you still going to IC?
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