Confuggled_one Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Hey guys, My ex gf invited me to her birthday party and i dont know how to respond or act.. any suggestions??? that'd be great >< thank you
Vanquish Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 If you can handle seeing her with another guy and not seeing her in the girlfriend light then go for it. I did and don't regret it either way. I ended up getting bitched at by her and her freaking out and acting like a tard but it was worth it.
Kamille Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Confuggled one, we all need to reach a point where we know things are not going to work out with someone to let them go. One of the good ways to reach that point is NC, which is why it is so popular on this forum. But for me, often time, before I go into NC, I need to get "to the bottom of things". literally. and emotionally. I need to torture myself to the point of me realising by trying to make things work that things won't work. It sounds to me like you're hanging on to the possibility that things might somehow work out between you and this girl. Are you? if so why? and how do you see it working if you get back together? You know better then any of us how to handle the situation, but I would suggest you not go to the birthday, seeing as the two of you have such a fond memory of her last birthday. You don't owe her an explanation. You could be honest and tell her you feel it would be confusing for you. Or you could tell her, even, that you want to keep the memory of her last birthday, when you two were happy together, pristine in you mind. (Careful, this line is akin to playing). Or maybe I'm saying all this and her birthday was yesterday. Let me know what you decide and do. No matter what, I'm sure you will make the best decision for you.
London Kid Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Be careful. My ex invited me to her birthday party 3 weeks after we split up and i had to sit there and watch her get it on with another guy..........wan't very pleasant i can tell you! If i could turn back the clock i sure would have declined that invitation.....
amaysngrace Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I wouldn't go unless you have some hot babe with big boobies on your arm...can that be arranged??
johnnytable Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I wouldn't recommend going. It certainly won't be fun for you. Do something else with somebody else. Make *this* the first birthday of hers that you don't do anything about, rather than waiting a year to do this.
InvisibleTouch Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Politely turn her down and move on. You will be a fly trapped in her web if you go. If she wants you then she must come to you and work very hard once she is there. Dont go!
Moai Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I'm in the "don't go" camp. If she wants you back, not going will make you more attractive and make her chase you. If she doesn't but wants "to be friends" that sucks for you and why torture yourself? If you have a girlfriend, why put her through the ringer of going to this party? If you don't, why go, as you can't hit on any girls there without it being freaky. There will probably be men there who are into her, and that will kill you, even if you think you are beyond it. Tell her you have plans for that evening, that you appreciate the invite, and that if you can you'll swing by for a bit and then don't go anywhere near there, or anywhere near where she might be later.
Author Confuggled_one Posted October 25, 2006 Author Posted October 25, 2006 I wouldn't go unless you have some hot babe with big boobies on your arm...can that be arranged?? HAHAHAHAHAHA ya i can hook myself up with a group of 10 naw jp im not that kind of guy.. i guess ill just get her a gift and a card and turn her down. it really isnt worth the pain.. but i dont want her to get hurt in the meanwhile. her bday is coming up in two weeks.. so we'll see thanks for all your suggestions guys.. it helps a lot and some even cracked the hell outta me
dr strangelove Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 hmm I didnt add my suggestions yet you should -Get her shock therapy for her birthday or antidepersents (sp) -Get reo speedwagon to play for her, I mean come on who doesnt like reo speedwagon -Show up completely naked with a bow wrapped around your neck, look what I got you wink wink -Whatever you get her.. have it chocolate coated.. Chicks love chocolate she will be glad you were so thoughtful.. mm a chocolate covered sweater I think any woman would appreciatte that.. -Get her a book entitled "how to stop being a confusing bitch" ps get yourself a book called "how to love a confusing bitch" I believe they are in the same section.. but you might need a copy of "how to get the dorks at the bookstore to help me find what im looking for" although kidnapping there double latte or their signed copy of "I dont get warhol, am I stupid?" works sometimes too
Author Confuggled_one Posted October 25, 2006 Author Posted October 25, 2006 hmm I didnt add my suggestions yet you should -Get her shock therapy for her birthday or antidepersents (sp) -Get reo speedwagon to play for her, I mean come on who doesnt like reo speedwagon -Show up completely naked with a bow wrapped around your neck, look what I got you wink wink -Whatever you get her.. have it chocolate coated.. Chicks love chocolate she will be glad you were so thoughtful.. mm a chocolate covered sweater I think any woman would appreciatte that.. -Get her a book entitled "how to stop being a confusing bitch" ps get yourself a book called "how to love a confusing bitch" I believe they are in the same section.. but you might need a copy of "how to get the dorks at the bookstore to help me find what im looking for" although kidnapping there double latte or their signed copy of "I dont get warhol, am I stupid?" works sometimes too HAHAHAHAHA dude LOL is today make Confuggled_one laugh today?!?!?! awesome, will do!! but the naked part.. i dont think she's worth seeing it no more
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