Sand&Water Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Truth is -the man is not a complete stranger. But, still a stranger in one form or another. The Question: Is it wise to meet a man for coffee, who you have only known for 1 week? He and I share many things/ideas/hobbies/interests in common. I don't have a problem talking to him, as he seems to be a nice man. The deal-breaker is, though, he lives a few hours away from my city. He suggested/told me/wants to meet up. Should I give him a chance? Please, tell me I am a fool for contemplating! Thank you, in advance. Sand&Water
SmoochieFace Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Truth is -the man is not a complete stranger. But, still a stranger in one form or another. The Question: Is it wise to meet a man for coffee, who you have only known for 1 week? He and I share many things/ideas/hobbies/interests in common. I don't have a problem talking to him, as he seems to be a nice man. The deal-breaker is, though, he lives a few hours away from my city. He suggested/told me/wants to meet up. Should I give him a chance? Please, tell me I am a fool for contemplating! Thank you, in advance. Sand&Water Sounds like you just want us to give you reasons for not meeting him. You mention the 'dealbreaker'. If it really is a 'dealbreaker' then why are you even considering the meeting?
alphamale Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I would advise against it....LDRs are pretty much a waste of time.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I would advise against it....LDRs are pretty much a waste of time. It depends. 2-3 hours can be doable for awhile and if it becomes serious and stays serious, like engagement serious, then someone has to move.
laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 oops double post trying to up your total post tally!! S&W... i think you should give it a go, who knows.... could be REally good coffee!
monkey00 Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Well, it's just coffee who knows what could happen thereafter. I dont see a reason not to
SmoochieFace Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 It depends. 2-3 hours can be doable for awhile and if it becomes serious and stays serious, like engagement serious, then someone has to move. Of course 'it depends'. Saying that LDRs are a 'waste of time' is ridiculous. Every individual is different. So is every relationship. My GF lives 10 hours away from me - and we've been in the LDR for three years now... certainly not a 'waste of time'. When the time is right we will be living together.
alphamale Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 trying to up your total post tally!! no, just wireless network problems...
Adunaphel Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 If you have met him in person, I'd say go for it. If you have never met each other, I strongly advise you against getting together for coffee (or anything else) so soon.
Author Sand&Water Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 Reply: I am feeling paranoid. I have this intense, sickness, bond, jitters, butterflies in my stomach. It is a mess in there. When he mentioned, the meeting up part, I withdrew. I told him, I thought he was joking. He sensed the disinterest -and I suppose, dropped the subject. Why not? Because: (A) He is a stranger. I have not met him face-to-face. Hence, I can't trust. (B) There is a 6 year age gap. He is the old one. I am the young one. Sand&Water
burning 4 revenge Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Why not? (B) There is a 6 year age gap. He is the old one. I am the young one. Sand&Water Well, that's not a huge gap. It's more natural the other way around, but it isn't a troubling age gap
Ariadne Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Hey, S&W, what happened with that other guy? The one with the love letter? And this one, well, who knows who knows... Ariadne
Craig Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Why not? Because: (A) He is a stranger. I have not met him face-to-face. Hence, I can't trust. (B) There is a 6 year age gap. He is the old one. I am the young one. Meet in a public place. There are strangers all around you when you go shopping, etc. I assume you are an adult so it isn't like a 6 year age gap would be frowned upon. This would be just a meeting for a coffee and conversation not a planning session for getting married.
Green Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I dated a girl who lived 2 hours away from me before... meeting for coffee is a good thing
laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Meet in a public place. There are strangers all around you when you go shopping, etc. I assume you are an adult so it isn't like a 6 year age gap would be frowned upon. This would be just a meeting for a coffee and conversation not a planning session for getting married. my thoughts too.... and be a few minutes late.... take a peek, if he looks shadey and creepy, stand him up, easy!
caring guy Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 How did you 1st meet him, was it on an internet site or something or do you work or study with him etc!! cg
alphamale Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Meet in a public place. There are strangers all around you when you go shopping, etc. yeah CRAIG, and what are those strangers in public places gonna do? Nothing, thats what! People are getting mugged in public and having heart attacks and stuff and everyone just keeps on going about their business.
SmoochieFace Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 yeah CRAIG, and what are those strangers in public places gonna do? Nothing, thats what! People are getting mugged in public and having heart attacks and stuff and everyone just keeps on going about their business. That may be true in NYC or... ahem... Detroit but overall most places do not have so many selfish and self-absorbed people.
Craig Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 yeah CRAIG, and what are those strangers in public places gonna do? Nothing, thats what! People are getting mugged in public and having heart attacks and stuff and everyone just keeps on going about their business. You've got to be kidding.
lindya Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 You've got to be kidding. Let's just stay indoors where it's safe, and never venture outside! Oh, hang on...
johan Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 You've got to be kidding. Just the other day I stepped over two dead bodies and ignored a guy who was choking. The bastard kept reaching for me with his flailing arms and his eyes were all buggy. If you want something from me, at least get your face to not be so blue before you ask. The tongue belongs IN the mouth by the way.
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Just the other day I stepped over two dead bodies and I think that's paying the appropriate respect. Props to you. On the other hand, they're already dead. They are nothing but empty shells - symbols of something that was once unique and touching. Hey - for next time - if you step on their ribcage I bet you can get them to say "Johan"...it may be kind of indistinct and muffled though. I know this from experience.
Author Sand&Water Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Reply: He and I are adults -grown adults, not children. I'm certainly ain't going to take a risk; meeting in a public venue is the wisest of all options. At first I was hesitant about the age gap. But other aspects of the scene/compatibility overpowered the difference. I have always, contrary to popular belief, admired and digged older men. As a result, I'm delighted he is older than me. Oh I know how he looks like. He isn't threatening, although I have yet to entirely comprise and compose an extensive profile of his overall personality as I, still, am getting to know him. Do this mean I will have to avoid physical affection and/or kissing? Damn, this is going to be hard! As each day passes by, I create new possibilities of this not working out. Meeting Time Frame: Is late November - early December a reasonable period? Sand&Water
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