magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 and i am the tooo fequent smoker... Do you ever have blackouts?
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Don't you dare contact him! Go to sleep. Turn the ringer off and the computer off. Put the TV on if you have to. Feels great to be a gangsta.
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Huh? Shouldn't you be balancing your portfolio? Leave matters of the heart to the experts.
amaysngrace Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Shouldn't you be balancing your portfolio? Leave matters of the heart to the experts. It was a hypothetical question. Lighten up, babycakes. ps I said I'd drop him into the friend zone...
mental_traveller Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 nooooo, i guess he is just avoiding the situation...i dunno, i dunno what he thinks? i am just sad cause i feel bad when i hurt other people's feelings, i am too empathetic like that. i will get over it. I have a different take. I think you are being needlessly indecisive, and procrastinating. Your response to a situation which requires you to confront the problem head on and take decisive and final action is to umm and arrr and hope that someone or something else will take the action for you. As a result, instead of kicking this no-good bum to the kerb a long time ago, you dragged the "relationship" out way too long after it became obvious he wasn't good for you, and still you are trying to look for compromises or middle ground. Even now you are saying this is the "affirmation", that you somehow "needed". Why the hell do you need any affirmation to realise the obvious, and then take the necessary steps? Look, just get rid of this guy, put him out of your mind, your life, and your cellphone contact list. Stop making excuses for faffing about, take charge and be brutal for once! In a few months you'll be wondering why you waited so long. Or is it something else? Perhaps you don't want to feel "guilty" about - shock horror - dumping an unsuitable partner? So if you can string things along a bit until he gives you enough "bad behaviour" to think that he *deserved* being dumped, then you can go ahead and leave with a clear conscience. Well, if true then that's a very convoluted solution. It might be better to just go to a few assertiveness classes instead. Also, needlessly stringing someone along in order to feel better is not selfless behaviour at all, in fact I'd say quite the opposite.
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