laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 or lack of actions i should say..... update: so dude, who “loves me” and "wants to spend the rest of his life with me"…… has not called me ONCE this weekend!!!! he text me the barest minimum, and there have been a few emails, but they are only one or two words long, and I usually initiate the emails, of course my emails to him have only been have a good day, blah blah blah. But you would think someone so totally “in love” with someone would be a bit more active in salvaging a relationship that they wanted….. right? I would think so. I am sad.
alphamale Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I am sad. Why? I thought you were trying to ditch this clown? Well, here's your chance. Unless you were lying to us and he is trying to ditch you. What's going on? Try to be straight forward this time LRB
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 Why? I thought you were trying to ditch this clown? Well, here's your chance. Unless you were lying to us and he is trying to ditch you. What's going on? Try to be straight forward this time LRB nooooo, i guess he is just avoiding the situation...i dunno, i dunno what he thinks? i am just sad cause i feel bad when i hurt other people's feelings, i am too empathetic like that. i will get over it.
alphamale Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 nooooo, i guess he is just avoiding the situation...i dunno, i dunno what he thinks? so like what?! Is your ego bruised because he's not on his hands and knees begging for you to not dump him? Cause he's not saying "boo hoo hoo, LRB you're the best thing that ever happened to me, please don't leave me, you are everyting to me, oh, boo hoo hoo, my life is over, boo hoo"
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 so like what?! Is your ego bruised because he's not on his hands and knees begging for you to not dump him? Cause he's not saying "boo hoo hoo, LRB you're the best thing that ever happened to me, please don't leave me, you are everyting to me, oh, boo hoo hoo, my life is over, boo hoo" not quite that extent.... but i would think he would do something. actually, his lack, is the affirmation that i need....
amaysngrace Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 not quite that extent.... but i would think he would do something. actually, his lack, is the affirmation that i need.... You gotta view it as this LaRB, either he rises up to the standards you have set for yourself from a man, or he falls short and will never be worthy of you. Either way it's a win/win. If he rises to the challenge...terrific. But if he's unable to, you don't want to waste your time with him anyhow.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 You gotta view it as this LaRB, either he rises up to the standards you have set for yourself from a man, or he falls short and will never be worthy of you. Either way it's a win/win. If he rises to the challenge...terrific. But if he's unable to, you don't want to waste your time with him anyhow. ahhh thanks! your posts, today especially, have been soo right-on IMO! and it's soo true....i keep thinking to myself, this is how he is handling this situation? it is almost completely opposite of when i told him a few weeks ago that i was not happy, then he asked if there was anything he could do, anything to work on..... he asked ME if "i just wanted to throw up my hands and be done with it" which is what he seems to be doing now.....
amaysngrace Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I know it doesn't make it any easier though, does it? I like to play my music really loud when I'm down and dance around my house like a stripper. Oftentimes I feel much better!! PS thank you for your kind words
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 I know it doesn't make it any easier though, does it? actually, the way you say it sounds better than what is in my head, even though it is exactly the same thing! you paraphrase my thoughts sooo well! PS thank you for your kind words
Art_Critic Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Someone fell for the guy !!!. It sure is nice to know that women have tough times making breakup decisions too..
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 Someone fell for the guy !!!. WTH are you and ALPHA talking about?
magichands Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 and "wants to spend the rest of his life with me" I think that's the bit where you're too old to have fun anymore. Reminds me of a line from that staple of romantic comedies, WHMS...when you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. I think he could sense that you are pulling away.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 I think that's the bit where you're too old to have fun anymore. Reminds me of a line from that staple of romantic comedies, WHMS...when you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. I think he could sense that you are pulling away. sorry about my fragmented sentances in advance: i am pretty sure the reason he has not done much this weekend is because I have started pulling away, i have a cold right now too, so i have been bleeding that excuse as well. you women make me laugh and why is that?
alphamale Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 WTH are you and ALPHA talking about? you want to get rid of this dude and this is you perfect chance and instead you are fretting about why he's reacting this way? who cares man! this is really more about YOUR feelings than HIS feelings....
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 you want to get rid of this dude and this is you perfect chance and instead you are fretting about why he's reacting this way? who cares man! this is really more about YOUR feelings than HIS feelings.... well, yeah.... but i wanna feel ok with it too....... sorry ALPHA, but i kinda care abouth others' feelings, at least sometimes. and he has not yet gotten back to me with me emails asking what the(his) deal is yet.
alphamale Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 and he has not yet gotten back to me with me emails asking what the(his) deal is yet. we'll you're breaking up with him...WTF do you want him to do?? You have no right to get all pissed off just cause he's not "reacting" the way you want in this situation.
amaysngrace Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 and he has not yet gotten back to me with me emails asking what the(his) deal is yet. Hmm...I see now. You broke up with him but really you like him. You wish he'd show you a little something so that you know his feelings for you are true. He hasn't contacted you, and it's tearing you up inside. Is that right?
jimmy20013 Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Is this the pull and push game I heard that girls play??
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Hmm...I see now. You broke up with him but really you like him. You wish he'd show you a little something so that you know his feelings for you are true. He hasn't contacted you, and it's tearing you up inside. Is that right? well it's not tearing me up..... but i do want to dig to see what's up....
magichands Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 and he has not yet gotten back to me with me emails asking what the(his) deal is yet. I agree with amaysngrace's assessment. He is probably wondering if it's worth going through all the drama just for frequent mind-blowing sex. Maybe he's smoking some pot to clear his head.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 I agree with amaysngrace's assessment. He is probably wondering if it's worth going through all the drama just for frequent mind-blowing sex. Maybe he's smoking some pot to clear his head. frequent? ummm no, that's another thing!!! we did not have enough sex
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 frequent? ummm no, that's another thing!!! we did not have enough sex. and i am the tooo fequent smoker...
amaysngrace Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 well it's not tearing me up..... but i do want to dig to see what's up.... Don't you dare contact him! Go to sleep. Turn the ringer off and the computer off. Put the TV on if you have to. And sleep soundly knowing you got through the day.
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