Guest Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 do people know what a promise ring is? it is far from any high school romance - that's for sure! people think that there are only two rings a man offers a woman on the path towards union. actually, there are many - and a promise ring is only given to someone as a sign of faith to a woman who might be anxious or have doubts about her 'standing' in a relationship when her man cannot be at her side 24-7. a promise ring is a vow. an oath for faith - stating i will ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU - FOREVER. an enagement ring has a dateline attached - we will get married on x. and a promise ring made of parts of other rings he has been given or bought for himself - is holistic. i have a tattoooo with the word promise on it...i told the ex that...no reply. some people do consider it high school i guess
Guest Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 do people know what a promise ring is? it is far from any high school romance - that's for sure! people think that there are only two rings a man offers a woman on the path towards union. actually, there are many - and a promise ring is only given to someone as a sign of faith to a woman who might be anxious or have doubts about her 'standing' in a relationship when her man cannot be at her side 24-7. a promise ring is a vow. an oath for faith - stating i will ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU - FOREVER. an engagement ring has a dateline attached - we will get married on x. and a promise ring made of parts of other rings he has been given or bought for himself - is holistic. i have a tattoooo with the word promise on it...i told the ex that...no reply. some people do consider it high school i guess The problem is promises can still be broken. And many women know this. It scares them. In high school girls don't know that so much. My boyfriend gave me a "promise ring" and I am scared all it means is he wants me to have "something" to show he put "something" into the relationship even though what he has put in is nothing compared to the life he lead with his ex wife. It's nice to know that it is in your heart an "undying promise" but why not take things to the next, more mature level. If its REAL than it wouldn't be a problem in the female's eyes....
napoleandynamite Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 my husband gave me a promise ring almost two years before we got engaged. when i wore it, it felt like he just gave it to me for the sake of giving me what resembled an e-ring with no commitment behind it since at the time, he was too immature to make one (and quite old enough for one). In my eyes, it was not a token of promise, but a token of his lack of desire to marry me. It was a turn off. I eventually stopped wearing it because I thought it was stupid. It was embarassing telling everyone, "This is a promise ring, not an e-ring", "A promise ring means he is serious about proposing to me one day"...the looks on people's faces where ridiculous. Worst of all, to me it was ridiculous and sophomoric. I think it's a nice thing if your in high school or begining college, but when you're both adults, it's quite childish. My husband proposed a few years later, and let me tell you, it almost didn't happen because he wasn't growing up in other ways (careers, status, where he lived, etc) I was ready to leave. I was ready to leave, and almost did forever. That's when he grew up and proposed all within a few weeks! We are now married. But our marriage almost didn't happen. And the promise ring did not indicate his promise of marriage, it was more a way to make me feel like the relationship was actually going somewhere at the
lovelorcet Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 do people know what a promise ring is? it is far from any high school romance - that's for sure! a promise ring is a vow. an oath for faith - stating i will ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU - FOREVER. an enagement ring has a dateline attached - we will get married on x. and a promise ring made of parts of other rings he has been given or bought for himself - is holistic. i have a tattoooo with the word promise on it...i told the ex that...no reply. some people do consider it high school i guess It is High school and if you can't see that then grow up. "Always be there for you - forever" That is a wedding ring and you know what those don't always work either... great idea for a tattoo btw
littlekitty Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 It is High school and if you can't see that then grow up. "Always be there for you - forever" That is a wedding ring and you know what those don't always work either... great idea for a tattoo btw How true!! Promise ring my a$$!!
Guest Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 How true!! Promise ring my a$$!! WELL, YES, IT IS KINDA FUNNY WHEN I HEAR IT FROM YOUR POINT OF VIEW - ALL I MEANT WAS GIVING ONE IS THE START WHEN U LAUGH WHAT U ARE LAUGHING AT IS THE MAN THE RING SHOULD MEAN NOTHING I GAVE SOMEONE A RING LIKE THAT WITH AND IT WAS MY INTENSION TO MARRY HER...BUT WE GOT SIDETRACKED AND I NEED TO TAKE CARE OF HER THINGS FIRST [sCHOOL JOB MOVING IN] THEN I GOT SICK, AND THERE WE LOTS OF THINGS IN BETWEEN IN A PERFECT WORLD I WOULD HAVE JUST ASKED HER - AND SHE KNEW THAT BUT BETWEEN KIDS, JOB, ILLNESS, CHEATNG, MOVES, SCHOOL - WELL, I DID THE BEST I COULD - OH WELL GLAD U FOUND THAT FUNNY
Guest Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 How true!! Promise ring my a$$!! this has been an interesting post. i have never really thought about how a woman would react upon receiving a gift such as that. i have always believed that whether u were buying a necklace [valentine's day] or a ring [random act of kindness] or a toe ring [sexy reminder] that it was the thought and intent behind it and that the person had u in their heart and mind. i know see that perhaps some women do not see things that way. if i was a man that ended up marrying a woman and found out that she felt this way about something i gave her i would have been extremely hurt and that's a sign things would not have worked out in the long run. i received one thumb ring from an ex and i still wear it today even after 5 years without her in my life. take care
littlekitty Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 this has been an interesting post. i have never really thought about how a woman would react upon receiving a gift such as that. i have always believed that whether u were buying a necklace [valentine's day] or a ring [random act of kindness] or a toe ring [sexy reminder] that it was the thought and intent behind it and that the person had u in their heart and mind. i know see that perhaps some women do not see things that way. if i was a man that ended up marrying a woman and found out that she felt this way about something i gave her i would have been extremely hurt and that's a sign things would not have worked out in the long run. i received one thumb ring from an ex and i still wear it today even after 5 years without her in my life. take care How on earth do my thoughts on promise rings equate to me not appreciating or loving a gift from my partner?! I have many sacred things my partner has given me and I treasure them all. In the UK (where I am from) a promise ring is almost unheard of. It's something high school kids in the US do. It's the concept of a pre-engagement ring that I don't understand or believe in. Gifts are a completely different subject. I don't believe you need a pre-engagement ring to show your commitment to someone. Why not just be commited and when/if the time comes and you are ready to take that next step, then get engaged?!! I just don't see the need for a intermediate step in the process... it's so high school to me!! Here's a ring... now I promise to be your boyfriend...?! What?!!
littlekitty Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 WELL, YES, IT IS KINDA FUNNY WHEN I HEAR IT FROM YOUR POINT OF VIEW - ALL I MEANT WAS GIVING ONE IS THE START WHEN U LAUGH WHAT U ARE LAUGHING AT IS THE MAN THE RING SHOULD MEAN NOTHING I GAVE SOMEONE A RING LIKE THAT WITH AND IT WAS MY INTENSION TO MARRY HER...BUT WE GOT SIDETRACKED AND I NEED TO TAKE CARE OF HER THINGS FIRST [sCHOOL JOB MOVING IN] THEN I GOT SICK, AND THERE WE LOTS OF THINGS IN BETWEEN IN A PERFECT WORLD I WOULD HAVE JUST ASKED HER - AND SHE KNEW THAT BUT BETWEEN KIDS, JOB, ILLNESS, CHEATNG, MOVES, SCHOOL - WELL, I DID THE BEST I COULD - OH WELL GLAD U FOUND THAT FUNNY I'm not laughing at you, or the 'man'. I'm laughing at a tradition I don't believe in!! And if cheating was involved in the relationship, should you even have been thinking about marrying?! It's not a good start now is it?! The start is meeting someone and commiting to them. The next step is asking them to marry you and becoming engaged. I see no need for an intermediate step! I see no need for a 'I promise I'm commited, but not enough to get married yet' ring...!!
the_alchemyst Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I don't think I fully understand what a promise ring means. I got one, though. My exbf gave it to me on our one year anniversary. He said that it was his way of showing me that he loved and that he hoped to someday be even closer to me. He also told me that for him, it would be like me carrying a little bit of his love with me. Eh. I loved the ring. I thought it was a really sweet gesture. In fact, I still have it kept away in a little box. I don't know about these promises, though--I don't remember him making any. He only said statements. And they were true.
littlekitty Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I don't think I fully understand what a promise ring means. I got one, though. My exbf gave it to me on our one year anniversary. He said that it was his way of showing me that he loved and that he hoped to someday be even closer to me. He also told me that for him, it would be like me carrying a little bit of his love with me. Eh. I loved the ring. I thought it was a really sweet gesture. In fact, I still have it kept away in a little box. I don't know about these promises, though--I don't remember him making any. He only said statements. And they were true. So was it really a promise ring then? Perhaps that's just the easiest label to put on it?! To me that sounds more like an anniversary gift with sentiment attached to it... not just a 'here's something to signify our first level of commitment'...?!
Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 So was it really a promise ring then? Perhaps that's just the easiest label to put on it?! To me that sounds more like an anniversary gift with sentiment attached to it... not just a 'here's something to signify our first level of commitment'...?! PERHAPS AGE HAS A LITTLE TO DO WITH IT AS WELL. IF I WAS IN MY 30s AND MY BOYFRIEND GAVE ME A PROMISE RING I WOULD GIVE HIM A BIG HUG AND KISS THEN MARCH HIM DOWN TO THE JEWELLERY STORE AND SHOW HIM THE REAL DEAL - WINK
littlekitty Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 PERHAPS AGE HAS A LITTLE TO DO WITH IT AS WELL. IF I WAS IN MY 30s AND MY BOYFRIEND GAVE ME A PROMISE RING I WOULD GIVE HIM A BIG HUG AND KISS THEN MARCH HIM DOWN TO THE JEWELLERY STORE AND SHOW HIM THE REAL DEAL - WINK That's about right!!
Knittress Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 I have a promise ring, but I'm embarrassed to call it that because as many posters here have noted, many think it's merely careless symptom of puppy-love. What it means from me is that I'm involved someone who's absolutely nuts over me. It's a serious gift with some serious intent behind it. That's pretty much it. I'm not a fan of rushing into formal commitment, but I know he wants to marry me, and I think if things keep going as well as they have been this past year it may happen someday. I plan on getting him something nice and titanium for Christmas. If in the future things change, they change. I didn't want an expensive ring - but that's what I got. He spent a lot of care in selecting it and it's the most romantic thing I've ever been given by a man. I wear it because I like feeling taken, even if I'm not ready to be tied down. I feel proud to hold his hand and wear his ring. It may not be 'real' - but our relationship is. (Here is where I admit that I agree with a lot of you, to some degree :>) )
magichands Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 I believe a promise ring stops the blood from exiting your penis too fast. But don't keep it on too long or there could be trouble.
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