Guest Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I have been married for 18 yrs. sex, did someone say sex? what is it? I forgot cause I only get it like maybe once every 6 mths if I am lucky. there are a hole lot of underline issues due to this. anyway, I do love my husband but I think I am just tired of the battle. I am only 32 and I think I am at my peak. he is 36 and does not care if he gets it from me or not. really I think it is a fistina thing on his part. I think because he jacks off alot...not sure on that...but if he is not having it with me then that is what he is doing. I know for a fact he is not cheating!! it is boring when we do have it top or bottom nothing kinky and I have mention about tieing him up etc....his response was tying me up for what?? I think the older I get the more my mind is like man that would be good that way or that would be good that way. hell I would have it hanging from some rafters.to tell you the truth I have made my own sex room up in my mind(I am blushing now)I am very modest even though it may not sound it but I have this inter animal that is trying to break out. I was young when we met (14 just turning 15) I was raped, and so I know this played a part in my marrage.I also was not very knowldgeable about sex.I did not get around. I was on the reserve and now I am busting out. I have very good dreams (shhhhuuuu I cant tell ya about them cause I would just be flat out imberresed and really cant wait to go to bed.I am just at the point of crossing the line. we do not talk and I am not begging anymore. I pretty much just delt with the fact of no sex. However my question is I am thinking of just finding a sex buddy... no ties no nothing. am I terible? we are basicly just friends like roomates.. we have a small child. I will not leave the marrage cause of her. she loves her daddy and it would tear her up. need to here from some of you partners at the same point as me and what becomes of it.I cant tell you about the fear of doing this cause I feel like if I did I would not be able to live with the guilt. but on the other hand he is not a husband to write home about. he treats me like dirt and is mean alot. no physcial abuse but lots of mental. he brings me down cause he has no self asteam. but that is a hole nother issue. I stay cause right now my daughter is very young and NO she sees no fighting I want have it. but I am lonley. I want sex and I know it want be getting it from the spouse. WHAT DO I DO???????
elijahBailey Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 However my question is I am thinking of just finding a sex buddy... no ties no nothing. am I terible? wow, you need to ask? I am only 32 and I think I am at my peak. he is 36 and does not care if he gets it from me or not. sounds a little odd that he's not even interested. btw, are you still in good shape?
elijahBailey Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 You got married at 14??? I did the math and I think you're right.
JackJack Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Where are you from? If you are only 32 and been married for 18 years, that would put you getting married at around age 14. My suggestion to you is, for you both to enter into marriage counseling asap if you both want to work towards saving things.
Ariadne Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Hey, did someone say sex? what is it? I forgot cause I only get it like maybe once every 6 mths if I am lucky. Yeah, just find another guy or leave the husband. He'll always be the father of your child. I wouldn't put up with that, Ariadne
carmaenforcer Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 elijahBailey, asked a good question. "Are you still in good shape?" I have to also asked, (Please be honest with your self and all answers will probably be obvious and remember to think back on past events for this issue has been so since before you noticed it, I'm sure.) -Do you or have you ever used sex as a weapon/tool to manipulate things in your relationship? -Do you go down on your man? -Do you (back when you were having sex) only do it when you want to and how you want to? -Are you a nag, bug your husband a lot when he obviously would rather not get bothered? -Do you PMS? -Do you constantly make comments about other guys in front of your man? -Do you do things that he doesn’t approve of? Is there any possibility that you might be a little to blame for his actions and his actions are but as a result of the things he has been dealing with for a long time? I am dealing with a similar thing at home with my Wife. For the longest time I have been neglected sexually, not getting it when or how I would want, expected to be there for her when she is ready and having to wait long periods of time for it sometimes. Dealing with having to do it in the same boring position each and every time and finish when she does or else she gets mad. Her refusing to go down on me, EVER, banning porno from the house, etc, etc. Anyway, I got used to taking care of business by myself. This helped me to stop bugging/begging for it. And when I stopped asking then she started bugging for it. A typical woman thing to do! (GENERALLY SPEAKING) This mean absolutely nothing because instead of it being a legitimate reason for wanting sex, like libido, it's sex for insecurity’s sake. Why don't you want me anymore? Are you getting it somewhere else? UUHHG He is probably sick of something and just not trying anymore. How to deal with this. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF!!! You more than likely know the reason and if you only think hard about what he might need, can come up with a fix.
stillafool Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 Yeah is your body in good shape? Because if he is ja-king off to porn he is obviously aroused by those women. Why don't you let him catch you watching porn when he comes home and see what happens. Men love that.
harvester76 Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 WHere are all these women that say they don't get enough sex from their husband? Is this just some kind of cruel joke to make us think that a woman can actually want sex after marriage?!?!?
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