jimmy20013 Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Alright, I got dumped by my gf around 6 months ago for no reason. Atleast I didn't get one. I know it wasn't because of some other guy or anything like that. It was probably because of her insecurities. Ever since the day she left to today, I imagine different situations. Basically I just play the what if game in which I imagine talking to my ex and saying things. Sometimes I am very hurt and imagine an angry conversation and sometimes I imagine saying things that may have made her stay. Also I cannot stop thinking about her. I am still hurt and very sad. I try to block her out but it seems very impossible. My question is Am I depressed? Is there something wrong with me? I am NOT suicidal or anything like that but its just that I haven't had a long bout of happiness in the past 6 months. I have felt happy but just not continuously. I just don't know how to handle the pain and rejection. I am not used to it. I am a student and I can't afford to see a therapist right now. My ex was going to school to be a therapist and she always analyzed me and thats one more reason why I don't want to see a shrink.
cpt101 Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Jimmy, Whilst I am very far from being an expert, I think the short answer to your question is - Yes, you are depressed, and yes this IS normal. As far as I know, depression can be caused by many factors, including emotional loss, stress, drugs etc. Its not always a physiological problem ( incorrect ballance of chemicals in the brain). check out http://www.beyondblue.org.au and look for a link to a test which psychologists use to judge depression, and read up on it the material about the condition there, its a legit site. But again, it sounds like a normal course of the break up situation. And again, Im far from being an expert Good luck;)
Mythical Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Hey Jimmy, This is defiently normal. I broke up with my ex of 4 years exactly 6 months ago also ( But I broke up with him in this situation) He are still friends which has been even more difficult than our relationship. I didn't really give him a reason why I broke up with him either and that REALLY bugged him altough it does not come up anymore I know he still wonders. I have met someone new he hasn't. To this day he still loves me. He is very depressed almost everyday because of this. I don't know if you still talk to your ex but I know it is the hardest thing ever for him everyday because he doesn't go without thinking about me. I just didn't feel the same anymore that I did before and thats why I couldn't give him a reason. I was very horrible to him for the last year of our relationship and feel horrible for everything. I know he will get over it and move on but for the time being I am there for him all the time and we hang out about twice a week. He is a great person, probabaly the most trustworthly guy I have ever met. You will feel better eventually but don't push yourself. It is completely normal to be depressed over this but when a girl that comes along that is meant for you you will feel that same way again, but only with someone that feels the same about you. Good luck I hope you feel better soon.
Author jimmy20013 Posted October 24, 2006 Author Posted October 24, 2006 Thanks cpt101. I will take a look at that tonight. Mythical, no I don't talk to my ex. I had to cut contact because I needed to heal. If she had lost feelings for me, I would have understood but thats not the case. I asked her and she said she didn't leave me because she stopped loving me or something like that. Oh well....It hurts really bad. I think I can handle the pain that comes with the breakup but the rejection is what I am having a tough time dealing with. Also my ego got bruised badly. Its her loss. I am a wonderful person and if she can't see that then too bad.
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