Guest Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I have lived with my boyfriend for the past 2yrs. From the moment we moved in together the problems started. I work 2 jobs a full time and a part time job in the evenings 2 or 3 times a wk. When I worked in the evening he would go hang out with a friend and sometimes would not come home all night. After the third or forth time I kicked him out!! I forgave him and he came back. Things have been so good until yesterday. My morning started of by going to a friends house for a showing. His sister and her friend came along. I have had my differences with the family in the past, but things have so good. I left my friends place around 3:00 in the afternoon, so I called him to see if he was home. He was at a sports bar watching a football game and said he would be leaving shortly. I went home and decided to take a nap because I had to go to work at 7:00pm that evening. I woke up at 5:00 and he was still not home. I called him on his cell and it rang and rang. I tried back a few min. later and it went straight to voice mail. I knew he had turned off the cell phone. Just to be sure I tried one more time. sAME THING. I knew then it was starting again. I had a neighbor keep a look out for him and call me if he showed up. She called and said he came hm at 7:30pm and left again at 7:45pm. I left the house around 6:30pm and got off at 12:00 am came home and he still was not home. I was invited to a party so I decided to go. I stayed out very late to just to show him how it feels. I came back to the house at 4:00 am. When I pulled into the drive way his truck was not there. Needless to say he nver came home last night. I have not heard from him all day. He has done this before and feel so foolish for trusting in him to not hurt me again. We had so many plans for the future marriage, kids... What do should I do? I know he will more than likely come tomorrow. How do I handle it??
innocntlisy1981 Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 he wants his cake and to eat it aswell.my partner used to do things like this to me until he went away to work and didnt have me around then he realised how much of an ass he was and how much he loved me now hes back home and is the perfect partner we even have a baby on the way.Dont give him the flick yet maybe he will realise how special u are its not to late just have a chat with him about it
Guest Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 It's real simple.... He will not change his behavior until he has to. If you continue to stay with him now even after your history of repeated problems, you are the one actually making the decision to continue on with the pain you are experiencing. Early on he may have been testing you or maybe just didn't give a rat's ass. But now he's drawn his line in the sand..... and you're up to bat now. If you take the pitch instead of swinging, please don't write back when he burns you again.
justagirliegirl Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 You need to put your foot down. You tried by staying out late which is the right idea. See if you can stay with a friend or family member for a few days and just leave without saying a word and do it. Don't answer your phone and don't call him. If he doesn't come around with a different attitude you might think about ending the relationship.
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 You need to put your foot down. You tried by staying out late which is the right idea. See if you can stay with a friend or family member for a few days and just leave without saying a word and do it. Don't answer your phone and don't call him. If he doesn't come around with a different attitude you might think about ending the relationship. It was such a rough day for me yesterday. He came home in the morning. I told him I was glad to see he was alive and well, but he needed to gather his things and leave. He is a recovering alcoholic and fell off the wagon over the weekend. He was too ashamed to come home. I made it very clear that I was not going to be there for him.
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