kryptoknight Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I've known this girl from my work place, but we never get a chance to talk to each other or get introduced because I work in a different department. She worked there for a year and decided to leave cuz shes going back to University. I noticed that she added me under her friendslist on Friendster after she left our work place. I never added her since I've known her because I dont ussually add people unless I've met them and talked to them personally.I also noticed that she viewed my profiles a few times before she added me. I started communicating with her via Friendster after she added me and it all started from there. Our conversation seems going well and one day I decided to ask her out for coffee. I called her a few times before I asked her to out for coffee with me. I noticed that the first time i talked to her on the phone she oftens laughs even if im not saying sumtin really funny. Shes a shy type of girl when the first time I saw her. Anyways, first time we went out for coffee, eveything seems fine and we talked and share stories for like 2 hours...most of the time we joke around and make fun of each other. After a few days she started txt msging me very often even at my work when shes at school. I began trying to show interest in her by asking her out again for our next date. She didnt show any interest about our next date and she doesn't answer me seriously when I asked her to go out with me again. She just recently broke up with her long distance ex bf and shes the type of girl that came from a very strict parents. After 2 weeks of just communicating by phone and online msgs, I asked her out again on Friday night, but she told me that shes gonna be bringing her female friend with her. I told her thats cool with me and I did picked both of them and all 3 of us went to the Mall and just shopped. After that, the 3 of us went for dinner and dropped both of them home. The next day I asked her if she wants to go see a movie just me and her. She said that going out with me is ok, except the movies. She told me she never gone out with a guy inside a movie theater before. She also told me that for now she wants to go out as friends and nuttin else. When I asked her if its okay just me and her as friends going out, she doesnt consider it going out as friends anymore and it is called dating already. I am confused because I wanna get to know her more and the only way is to spend more time with her just me and her. After she said that to me, I began to back off a bit and take things lightly. I didn't txt msg her or called her next day. The 2nd day she txt msg me at work saying that shes bored. We often talk on the phone frequently and made fun of each other most of the times....Theres a few times that we talk about serious topics but thats very rare. We started talking more on the phone lately specially during the week ends and often it last for like 4 hours of talk on the phone. Im trying to find out what she really thinks of me because Im getting an impression that she likes joking around with me and talking on the phone for a few hours but she doesnt seem interested in seeing me in person or being close to her. Do I have to give it more time before she gets really comfortable with me in person? LAst night I talked to her on the phone she asked me whats my Ideal girl and she said she will try to find me a girl. She even tried to hook me up with her female friend last time but I dunno if she was serious about it cuz we often joke around. I want to know if she likes me as a friend only or shes taking her time to get to know me more before she let her defenses down?...I am interested in her but I don't want to waste my time with her if she only just see me as a friend. Should I give it a bit more time before I tell her how a I feel aboout her? Thanks.
gfto Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 She also told me that for now she wants to go out as friends and nuttin else. This means that she is not romantically interested in you. You're in the dreaded "friend zone," from which there is no way out. Im trying to find out what she really thinks of me because Im getting an impression that she likes joking around with me and talking on the phone for a few hours but she doesnt seem interested in seeing me in person or being close to her. Again, this is because she is not romantically interested in you. You're wasting your time with this girl. Move on.
MysteryMethod Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I'll save you some time, bro.This girl ain't interested.Recognize the game. You're in the friends box, fool. And it's because you hesitated. If you see something that you want, go for it. If you're interested in a girl, grab some balls and ask her out. What took you so long? Look, if she really was diggin you, she wouldn't be bringing another female friend along. Believe me. And that sentence right there:I just wanna be friends.*** that. You ain't getting anywhere. Next time, stop being so nice. Grab some balls. Stop being a pussy. Recognize the game. Look at all the guys who are successful with women. And look at the guys who aren't. Hesitation, "niceness" gets you nowhere. Don't be so hung up one girl. There's a lot of women out there. Never keep someone who doesn't want to keep you.The level of attraction has gotta always be equal on both sides, or more towards your favor.Does she like you as much as you like her?Does she care about you as much as you care about her?Does she ask questions about you as much as you do about her?If not, *** IT.Move on.
Author kryptoknight Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 She told me, before she started going out with her ex bf, it took like 2 yrs before they get serious and started going out. Im thinking maybe shes taking her time to get to know me first as a friend before jumping into dating right away. She came from a very strict family and she told me she never had a close relationship before, cuz most of her ex bf's are long distance relationship that didn't work out. Should I talk to her straight and ask her if she only see me as a friend? I just want to make sure thats all. Thanks for the reply, I appreciate it alot.
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