neogenesis Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 I know this girl and exchanged numbers last week. We kinda knew each other from before but didn't really talk much but recently we have. Anyways, I called her up and found out she is kinda seeing someone from an even lastweek. She said she'll like to hangout as friends and I don't expect anything more than that. But to be honest, I'd really like to take her out on a real date sometimes and have a relationship with her but am I being evil and interfering with her new relationship with another guy? I don't want to pull any moves on her while we hang out, I just want her to get to know me better and such but again trying to get her to like me more. Should I stay clear or take my chances since her currently relationship is next to nothing?
Sand&Water Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Reply: I wouldn't say you are being evil. But, you do have evil intentions in the works. Be honest here. Deep down, you want to snatch her away from the man and run away with her into the sunset. As, lovely and romantic, that may be -in reality, it is not as beautiful as it seems. I suggest, you invite her out with your friends. Include her in activities you and your friends participate in -and start out by projecting a friendly aura. Be respectful. In return, she will respect you. Don't kill the gentleman within you. Sand&Water
Author neogenesis Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 Do you think that by projecting myself as a friendly person (which I am) will turn the friendship into a friends only in the future? Has happened once before and she said she'd like to go out with me but just don't want to ruin what we currently have if something goes wrong. I hate being too nice lol. By the way, is it wrong for me to ask about the person she's seeing? Like what is he like and such?
gfto Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Do you think that by projecting myself as a friendly person (which I am) will turn the friendship into a friends only in the future? It's already a friends only thing. There is no future with this girl. When a woman tells you should wants to be "just friends," whether you just met her, or you've been dating her for three years, it means she IS NOT INTERESTED in you. Leave her alone and keep looking.
Author neogenesis Posted October 23, 2006 Author Posted October 23, 2006 Even when her reason is becuase she is seeing somebody else? I don't expect her to be cheating on the guy (which I'm glad becuase I wouldn't be dating her if she did it so soon). I've heard of the guy and to be honest, I don't think he'll be able to last long with this girl. I'm hoping I can step in at the right time but then again, I'll be in the friend zone probably
gfto Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Even when her reason is becuase she is seeing somebody else? Yes. Women always give you the second, third, and fourth reasons they don't want to go out with you ("I'm kind of seeing someone," "I'm really busy," "I don't want to be in a relationship right now," etc.) But, the first reason is always the same: She has low interest level in you. It always starts with the woman's interest level in you. If you don't have that, then you have nothing. If this girl was interested in you, she wouldn't be seeing someone else; she'd be going on a date with you. It's that simple. I'm hoping I can step in at the right time but then again, I'll be in the friend zone probably You're already in the friend zone. Once you're in the friend zone, there is no escape. Start getting some new phone numbers.
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