Guest Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 I recently attempted suicide by taking an overdose of my meds in my girlfriend's house. We were planning on moving in together and things very rapidly fell apart. She broke up with me early in the am after a huge argument. I panicked and took my pills. She took me to the emergency room and spent the entire night at my side. I have no way of understanding has awful that must have been for her. Since I was released from the hospital she has asked me to not attempt to contact her, changed her locks and had her sister return my things to me. I would like to sit together with a therapist and try to talk about her fears and concerns for my stability and safety. I want to respect her wishes for no contact but I am hurting so bad and afraid as time passes she will move on. Has anyone been through anything similar? Any advice
Tony T Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 No woman, nowhere, nohow on the entire planet wants to be around a man who is unstable and who would attempt suicide at HER house. She stood by you at the hospital but she clearly doesn't want that again. Relationships are hard enough without walking a tightrope, not knowing if the person you're with is going to try to kill himself or herself again. I think she has made the right decision for herself by getting away from you. I would definitely get away from a woman who tried that crap at my house. How dare her! Now, it's up to you to get yourself straightened out and understand that you only have ONE life and the people around you don't want the kind of drama that's a part of a suicide attempt. If you must do that, go somewhere in private. If you want to have a great life, get some counseling and then set out to find a lady who will love you...and DON'T attempt anything goofy like suicide around her. People just don't want a part of that sort of thing. If it's attention you want, become an actor or a politician. Don't ever make the mistake that people will feel sorry for you because you've tried to commit suicide. They will stay as far away from you as they can. No, don't contact your ex. Leave her alone. Work on yourself!
shawn_68 Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Since I was released from the hospital she has asked me to not attempt to contact her, changed her locks and had her sister return my things to me. I would like to sit together with a therapist and try to talk about her fears and concerns for my stability and safety. I want to respect her wishes for no contact but I am hurting so bad and afraid as time passes she will move on. Has anyone been through anything similar? Any advice You might as well face this NOW. Nothing you say or do will change anything in her mind. Nothing. She's asked for N/C and you should respect it. Or you could find yourself with an unwanted Sheriff at your door. Get the picture? To be honest with you, there is VERY little chance for this to work in the future. As hurtful as that might seem, you're better off hearing this right now. Accept that it's over and find peace with that. Go to therapy by yourself. Your priority right now is your own stability and safety. Get yourself well and you can offer your love and happiness to another at a later time.
Mythical Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Guest, I have some questions for you. Why are you on meds? Were there other thigns that were bugging you that day? Are you depressed? Do you have lots of bad thigns in your life? What els leads you to being depressed wanting to commit suicide? After you answer these I have thigns to say
Ariadne Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Hi, Since I was released from the hospital she has asked me to not attempt to contact her, changed her locks and had her sister return my things to me. If she asked you not to attempt contact, then you shouldn't. You have to respect what she told you. What can you do . If you keep bugging her you are going to be like the biggest pest. If it's meant to be she'll come back to you somehow, so leave it up to fate I'd say. Good luck and hope you are feeling better, Ariadne
Guest Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Guest, I have some questions for you. Why are you on meds? Were there other thigns that were bugging you that day? Are you depressed? Do you have lots of bad thigns in your life? What els leads you to being depressed wanting to commit suicide? After you answer these I have thigns to say I am on meds for depression and anxiety. Ni, nothing was really bothering me that day until the fight and the breakup. The relationship with my gf was good. It was healthy for me. There is alot of stress with the ex-wife and my kids 1 of my kids over the gtf (ex-gf now). I appreciate anything that you have to say. I am feeling really lost here. Leo
Mythical Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 I am on meds for depression and anxiety. Ni, nothing was really bothering me that day until the fight and the breakup. The relationship with my gf was good. It was healthy for me. There is alot of stress with the ex-wife and my kids 1 of my kids over the gtf (ex-gf now). I appreciate anything that you have to say. I am feeling really lost here. Leo I think right now you need to get yourself back on track. I know I get hurt pretty easily (dont aways hsow it) but it defiently puts a toll on me and im not even on meds for it. I think just work on thinking about yourself right now and altough she must be very scared to be involved and around someone that could hurt themselve over them I think she needs to be supportive too. I know if I was her I don't hink I would lock the doors and such bt I would e very afraid that I could be responsible for someones life in which I was with exspcially. Get in as goods health as you can for yourself and i think it will work for your relatinship. I hope things get better Good luck
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