briarmoss Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 have already posted here, and got no replies so id like to try again, without going back over the original story,my partner of 7 years left me about 6 months ago, ( im a guy) although im not unaware of the reasons i was left, it did come as a shock to me as i guess i treated her and our relationship with an amount of contempt, i should point out here, i truly with all of me love her so much, now i had some issues from wayback that i had to address which i did, for my own self worth and future not, for the sake of my x, after few months of bitterness from her toward me that i cant blame her for, even tho it hurt, she contacted me, and we started seeing a little of each other just as friends, these meets got a little more frequent and lengthier, but only as friends by her request, we started meeting at the place we used share and still own, still only as friends, then the other night she stayed over we shared same bed, she was little ok lot typsy, she asked that i didnt take advantage of her, was more shocked that she even thght i would given her state, since we got up, and i took her back to were she is staying, apart from a message saying how much she had enjoyed the night, am told she will call me mid week to make arrangements for going out again, she says she finds it amazing that im doing and changing so much,tho i still love and adore her so much and i miss talking with her, and contact as we werent just lovers we where best mates, (or so i thght) i am doing the no contact thing, and appreciating her right to freedom not just freedom in general but freedom from the relationship, from us, tho it does hurt like hell, not just asking am i doing right thing, but has anyone any suggestions as to what may going on in her georgous head, and any tips on my actions with her now and in future...... xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Guest Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 well, sounds like you two have made it thru some rough seas and survived as friends - which is not so bad. i would like to add, that from your post, it doesn't appear that you held the relationship or yer ex in contempt - sounds like the opposite. life can be a hurricane at times. as for her asking u to not take advantage of her, she probably just meant that seeing you both had gone thru some rough times 'be nice and don't complicate things as she is still fragile [u are probably as well] and just keep things light' - 'don't play with her heart'. but that is just a guess. to know for sure - ask her - talk - communicate. one quick question: if u asked yer ex a question, would u expect a response and if they asked u would u respond? yes and no. yes, i would respond but only after some time had passed and i knew that the answer i was giving was honest and without any intent to hurt or mislead - just truthful. but that takes time. no, if i had something to do with my personal life that really had not to do with the past relationship. quickies: why would someone remove all traces of an ex [web, pic, etc.] = because seeing them brings back memories and they want and have moved on. why would someone post a pix of themselves and new gf = if it was related to a project, say music, anything personal is not appropriate. why would u be on a dating site if u are already dating = because yer bored that's where u find answers to how they but the carmel in that cadbury chocolate bar Moderator's Note: After some contemplation, it was determined that "yer" above means "your" or "you're" depending on the context.
Author briarmoss Posted October 22, 2006 Author Posted October 22, 2006 thanx for ure reply, tho it is a little vague, and im absolutely confused about the points raised in the quick questions, tho confused and me seem to go hand in hand at moment, u do seem to only concentrate your answer round the night she stayed rather than the bigger question, i accept i have messed up in the past, i also accept i want to accept love properly into my heart and would love to know, peoples opinions on her actions, no i wouldnt expect her to reply to a question i asked of her at the moment, as dont think she would feel comfortable, and the pair of us would see that as undue pressure, tho i do accept that leaves me in somewhat no mans land.
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