nickmurray Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 ok. Almost three months ago, i started to become friendly with a co-worker, shes . ive been there for . Eventually, the relationship progressed and everything was going fine. After a month of hanging out together, she felt that we become boyfriend/girlfriend. I was reluctant at first b/c i realize the potential problmes that can arise if it doesn't work out(workplace relationship). However, against my better judgment, I agreed in the commitment(mainly b/c i haven't had serious relationship in 3yrs. and i really like this girl. The next month or so was so much fun. We spent so much time together, had some nice intimate/sexual moments(although she is more experienced than me in that department). Then 2 weeks ago, from out of no where, she says she can't handle the whole relationship thing at this point(too much stress in her life). she had broken up with her ex about 10months ago, but they still have some baggage that i was informed on 2weeks ago. She says she still likes me, but wants things to be the way before we were an official couple. Just as i had told her, this was exactly what i was concerned about in the beginning. She reiterated that she felt really bad about the outcome but that "its not u, its me". yeah sure!! I still have some feelings for her, we still talk almost daily(text, IM), and even hang outside of work sometimes. Obviously, working in the same office with her can be awkward at times. Thats what really upsets me. We'll go out to eat lunch a few times a week. The reality is that she probably wont be working at our company much longer, so hopefully that will make things easier on me. Its tough though for someone who hasn't been in a serious relationship in a while and forgot who good it felt. Now 3 months later, I'm the one who is hurting b/c the relationship didn't work. I know i need to move on but its hard to resist talking to her if she texts, IMs me, or if we decide to hang out/be intimate(by the way i gave her $100 to get the birth control shot 3weeks ago which upset me too and now i cant benefit from it) I guess we can be friends, but i need to lose the relationship feelings that i still have. What can i do???
magichands Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 (by the way i gave her $100 to get the birth control shot 3weeks ago which upset me too and now i cant benefit from it) Benefit from it?? Haha. You "gave" her the $100, so get over it. She's giving you mixed signals, and you can't force the issue. Either be patient - and back off in hope of her "resolving" her feelings for you (doesn't seem too likely) - or minimise your contact with her until you can get your own feelings under control. Staying friends with her will only perpetuate those "relationship feelings" of yours.
ddnnee Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 aaaaaaaahahahaha, i love it when girls start new relationship when they: a) are currently in a relationship. b) just finished a relationship a few weeks ago. c) ended a relationship a while back but still have strings/emotions for the ex. d) have kids. e) and then end it because "its me, not you" check, check n check, been there and done that.
Guest Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 EXACTLY...just like a grocery list right? 1. ok, had the affair? check! 2. dumped his ass found the rebound stud? check! 3. ordered take out? check! 4. made out with co-worker at the all night car wash place? check! 5. grabbed some day olf donuts and threw them at his front window with the guy i am having an affair with? check 6. put money on the sens beating the leafs on thursday! damn well, 5 outta 6 isn't bad!
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