how do you deal with differences with your romantic partner?

[remedylane]

I'm just wondering how you people with a b/f or g/f deal with your personal differences? Are there any differences that bother you and how do you deal with that together?

[Pyro]

I'm just wondering how you people with a b/f or g/f deal with your personal differences? Are there any differences that bother you and how do you deal with that together?

 

They say opposites attract. Any differences that my GF and I have are not all that bad, otherwise I wouldn't be going out with her. Could you give an example or two on what you call personal differences?

[remedylane]

They say opposites attract. Any differences that my GF and I have are not all that bad, otherwise I wouldn't be going out with her. Could you give an example or two on what you call personal differences?

 

well what if you two have slight differences in spiritual faith although it's similar in most ways, there may be slight differences such as what ways to worship or something.

 

Or what if one of you really likes to do one set of things, but another likes to do something else, and you both feel bored of doing the things that the other person likes to do?

[Pyro]

well what if you two have slight differences in spiritual faith although it's similar in most ways, there may be slight differences such as what ways to worship or something.

 

Or what if one of you really likes to do one set of things, but another likes to do something else, and you both feel bored of doing the things that the other person likes to do?

 

I see. My ex was a Catholic and I am not. There was never really a problem there. We just went to our own churches.

 

Its all about compromise. I take it that the two of you will compromise and do things with each other, even if one of you doesn't particularly like it? Just be sure to do your own things as well. You don't have to do everything with your SO. No need to burn each other out.

[everlong]

do mean personal differences as in - one believes in a set of morals and values and the other changes on the fly?

or

personal activities?

see frankly [no pun intended] i find mowing the lawn, putting out the garbage, making dinner, fixing the car, etc. pretty darn boring - but that's life

now i like to travel, go to clubs, set tvs on fire - but having a family i don't get to do that every weekend...of yah, did i mention working and raising a family! yawn! so exciting eh

 

hey, not to long until i don't have to work anyways! wooo hooo!

 

i hate working - music/!

 

anyhoooo, if things get boring - you do something else TOGETHER AND SEPARATE

[Guest]

It all depends. If both people think their way is the best and all other ways are wrong, then they will never deal with differences because they will forever be trying to get the other person to change to their 'right' way.

 

If, however, both people accept that because people are different, they will like different things and do different things and that that's ok, then they allow each other to be different - they even support each other in the difference.

 

Sometimes people will just agree to not discuss the differences if it creates too much tension.

 

Bottom line: acceptance is an important quality in relationships.