shakenandstirred Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 I know the question sounds silly, but does a woman who was married or had a boyfriend that was good to her feel remorseful after he moves on and never contacts her again?
everlong Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 well, you know what...it really depends yah know....i think both should...but u know every ending is different....sometimes u just wanna get out of there - by the way...i read hurtingoverbp may 2006 [in case you are interested] and i understand
everlong Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 u know...i meant that...i really do...i was there...i just didn't have the full picture yah know....and hurtful words...well...i'll be u and u can be me for one day ok? deal? u get to say those things i get to feel the impact - fair?
Rooster_DAR Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 I know the question sounds silly, but does a woman who was married or had a boyfriend that was good to her feel remorseful after he moves on and never contacts her again? Almost always.
LaughMachine Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Some do, the ones who " didn't meen to ". But the ones who were really good at hiding the fact that they cheated on you..well obviously there is no remorse there if they can keep it from you that long. It's hard to get cheated on because it automatically gives you your built in perception of woman, when honestly it was just that one person who is a loser. Vice versa for guys
everlong Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 no sense in blabbing away here. nite nite all take care u know how to reach me in real land so...i'll pack this in fer a while stay kewl
CrushedOrgans Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 anytime i cheated in the past, i was already so past the relationship it was like it was already over. so i doubt their picking up and leaving would bother me in the least. and i told the truth everytime. it's amazing how many people will put up with cheating, not to mention those who pretend they don't know the other is hiding something. it made me lose a lot of respect for the people who stayed with me afterward. and i am such a different person now.
Adunaphel Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 I know the question sounds silly, but does a woman who was married or had a boyfriend that was good to her feel remorseful after he moves on and never contacts her again? I think it happens a lot (speaking from what I saw or heard from my friends). But they usually are more sorry than remorseful. Not because they cheated, because they cheated AND lost a great guy.
samsungxoxo Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 It's a case by case, depends on the situation and the person. Some feel remorse while others either don't or just don't want to deal with the guilt.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 All I can say is: believe what you want that will allow you to sleep at night. (If you are all gold, she wouldn't be looking elsewhere.)
Woggle Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Cheaters in general have an entitlement complex and some women feel that they should be able to do whatever they want and not be held accountable for it. The type of women that cheat tend to have a me me me mentality and don't really take anybody else into regard. To them it is all about them and screw everybody else. I do notice that some women get their pride hurt when a man doesn't put up with it and dumps her ass.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Cheaters in general have an entitlement complex and some women feel that they should be able to do whatever they want and not be held accountable for it. The type of women that cheat tend to have a me me me mentality and don't really take anybody else into regard. To them it is all about them and screw everybody else. I do notice that some women get their pride hurt when a man doesn't put up with it and dumps her ass. You just decribed my case in a nutshell. My G/F is now sending me cards saying she's sorry and misses me terribly. You know what, it's a little to late for that. Regards,
Woggle Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 You just decribed my case in a nutshell. My G/F is now sending me cards saying she's sorry and misses me terribly. You know what, it's a little to late for that. Regards, She feels no remorse at all. Her pride has been hurt and she is probably not used to a man saying no to her. If you took her back the same pattern would repeat itself.
Craig Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 All I can say is: believe what you want that will allow you to sleep at night. (If you are all gold, she wouldn't be looking elsewhere.) Are you in any way blaming the betrayed SO for the wandering cheating SO's behavior?
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Are you in any way blaming the betrayed SO for the wandering cheating SO's behavior? Craig, No, I'm not blaming the OP here. The real question is, "is there any worthy qualities in him that would allow his ex to feel remorseful?" Only he can answer that. However, if there are some issues between them - which had led her to wander - then my bet is, she'd feel liberated to have been 'awakened', so to speak. I say this out of experience. I had a brief fling with another man (I'm a MW), and I do not feel one ounce of remorse. I know it was not right to have that kind of physical contact with a married man. But do I feel bad for my H for my behavior? No, I don't. He doesn't own me. He was not kind to me when I did it. (He has since changed.)
Woggle Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Craig, No, I'm not blaming the OP here. The real question is, "is there any worthy qualities in him that would allow his ex to feel remorseful?" Only he can answer that. However, if there are some issues between them - which had led her to wander - then my bet is, she'd feel liberated to have been 'awakened', so to speak. I say this out of experience. I had a brief fling with another man (I'm a MW), and I do not feel one ounce of remorse. I know it was not right to have that kind of physical contact with a married man. But do I feel bad for my H for my behavior? No, I don't. He doesn't own me. He was not kind to me when I did it. (He has since changed.) So then would you be okay if he had an affair? Being that you don't own each other and all that. This is the type of mentality that makes some men hate women. If I were him I would divorce you.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 So then would you be okay if he had an affair? Being that you don't own each other and all that. This is the type of mentality that makes some men hate women. If I were him I would divorce you. Woggle, I doubt there's anything I can say to change your hatred for women. What I did, I would be ok with if it were reversed (ie. my H did the same with another woman.)
Woggle Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Woggle, I doubt there's anything I can say to change your hatred for women. What I did, I would be ok with if it were reversed (ie. my H did the same with another woman.) All women are not like you and I am starting to realize that.
tonyp56 Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 My question is does your husband know you cheated, or do you lie too? If something isn't going well between two people, especially married couples, get divorced, then go find someone else. There is no excuse for married women or men to cheat on their spouse--especially with how easy it is to get a divorce, I know cause I did. I don't care if the husband beats his wife or the wife never gives the husband sex, there is no excuse for cheating. Cheating spouses are the lowest of the lowest human scum, and I don't care why anyone cheats. My wife cheated and left, my best friend cheating and left his wife, and so many others I know have destroyed lives because they couldn't keep their pants up! Instead of talking to my former "best friend", I've been nice to his WIFE, because I've been there--the one left for someone else--and I can relate to her better. My best friend is now no better than my ex-wife, and what he has done is the very same thing she did. As I hope everyone can tell, I have 0 respect for anyone that cheats. So, to the OP, I'm sure some cheating women--and men--do feel remorse at some point. The question is, why would we--the ones that have been cheated on--care. I'll admit, I still love my ex, I still think of her, and I do care for her, but, the "I want to be married to her, I want to be with her, and etc." is no longer there, and I could care less anymore if she feels remorse or even guilt for what she did to me. It isn't worth worring about, we are no longer married, and there isn't much since in living in the past. You may not be at this point yet, but I promise it will come. You will come to a point where you will no longer worry about what your ex thinks or feels about what she did to you. You'll be so far past what she did, that you'll no longer care. At that point, you will have moved on.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 She feels no remorse at all. Her pride has been hurt and she is probably not used to a man saying no to her. If you took her back the same pattern would repeat itself. unfortunately that's too true
Rooster_DAR Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 unfortunately that's too true Exactly, hence my original statement on another post "I'm not falling for that crap". Her loss, not mine. Cheers!
Sup Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Craig, No, I'm not blaming the OP here. The real question is, "is there any worthy qualities in him that would allow his ex to feel remorseful?" Only he can answer that. However, if there are some issues between them - which had led her to wander - then my bet is, she'd feel liberated to have been 'awakened', so to speak. I say this out of experience. I had a brief fling with another man (I'm a MW), and I do not feel one ounce of remorse. I know it was not right to have that kind of physical contact with a married man. But do I feel bad for my H for my behavior? No, I don't. He doesn't own me. He was not kind to me when I did it. (He has since changed.) Neither do YOU own your husband. However, by not telling your husband, I assume that is still so, that you feel that you do own him. It seems to me that you are justifing what you did to your husband.
Sup Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Woggle, I doubt there's anything I can say to change your hatred for women. What I did, I would be ok with if it were reversed (ie. my H did the same with another woman.) That's a LIE if I ever heard one. Then again, nothing surprises me anymore.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 That's a LIE if I ever heard one. Then again, nothing surprises me anymore. :lmao: What do I gain from lying to you? You don't know me. And I don't care to make myself appear 'better' to you on an anonymous forum. Geez, why are you taking this so personal anyway? What I did - which was oral sex and kisses - would be fine to me if my H did it with another girl. I think that you *conservative* Americans need to relax a little bit in regards to "sex". It's not that big a deal, you know.
Author shakenandstirred Posted October 22, 2006 Author Posted October 22, 2006 Craig, No, I'm not blaming the OP here. The real question is, "is there any worthy qualities in him that would allow his ex to feel remorseful?" Only he can answer that. However, if there are some issues between them - which had led her to wander - then my bet is, she'd feel liberated to have been 'awakened', so to speak. I say this out of experience. I had a brief fling with another man (I'm a MW), and I do not feel one ounce of remorse. I know it was not right to have that kind of physical contact with a married man. But do I feel bad for my H for my behavior? No, I don't. He doesn't own me. He was not kind to me when I did it. (He has since changed.) I feel that cheating is not deserved just for revenge's sake. If the relationship is bad, simply get out of it and start another. Punishing another because you feel neglected is just a cheap shot under the belt.
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