Cardinal64 Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Is it too much to ask - that my wife understand what pain and heartache she is putting me through with her cheating? Is it too much to ask her to think of our little 5-1/2 year old son and the confusion and pain she will bring to his sheltered world when we eventually separate on account of her wanting her "freedom" ? Is it too much to ask her to stop and think of how much I deeply love her and how much I am trying to be the best husband I can be to her? I have my faults and I'm no saint - but I would never cheat on her. Is it too much to ask her to remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side - the guy she's involved with now really does not care a s... about her. And that she realize that eventually neary all - if not all - affairs die out after a short time. But the damage that the affair leaves in its wake lasts a lifetime. God, how I envy couples that are committed to each other through mutual trust, genuine love and caring. I would give anything to get that feeling back with my wife. Anyway, sorry for ranting like that. thanks everyone for taking the time and reading. All the best.
everlong Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 is it too much to ask someone to step up to the plate after all this time and have the their side of 'story' simply be told in an honest way with the jabs and barbs and then everyone is at peace? is that really asking to much?
everlong Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 i mean, how hard can it be to take 30 minutes of yer time, simply state, A happened when B, = X and send it in an email and that small effort heals?
Mythical Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Hey Crdinal, Im really not too sure to say because why are you with her? Is it because you stil love her and you have achild together? If so yes i feel horrible for you and I don't understand why she is doing it?? Does she full out admit to this? Please give me more info...HAve you spoke to her?? Does she explain why?
Mz. Pixie Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 It's not too much to ask........ She is in the grip of an addiction right now though Cardinal, and not thinking clearly. It's like a drug, the affair. It causes you not to care about anything but getting your next fix. You rationalize everything. Actually you re write the entire history of your relationship. For instance because my husband wasn't willing or trying to meet my needs, I rationalized that he must not love me and that he would actually be glad to be free of me. I rationalized that my children would be hurt, yes, but that it wouldn't be the end of the world. I will never, however, forget the look on their face as their world fell apart when we told them we were divorcing. But those are not the kind of things she's thinking about right now. She is not thinking about what it's going to feel like to see you move on to a new relationship or how she will feel about another woman tucking her children in one day. Believe me, I was prepared to be single- but I was not prepared for another woman taking care of my children part time after my ex remarried. Truly, if I could talk to your wife I would explain those things that she is not thinking about and how guilty she is going to feel one day. Even when she does move on into another relationship, if she has character and integrity then she is going to be in a world of hurt. Have you been to marriage builders? Are you guys going to marriage counseling?? Have you read "Love must be tough" by James Dobson?
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Is it too much to ask - that my wife understand what pain and heartache she is putting me through with her cheating? No it is not too much to ask. It is just unrealistic to expect a cheater to care. Cheaters are selfish. They are all about satisfying themselves, not caring about their BS or anyone else.
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