simon_uk Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Ok I have been broken up with my ex for two months. She told em she loved me but wasnt ready for a relationship. It was my birthday 4 weeks after we broke up, no greeting. It is her birthday next week. Do I send her a card or not? We have been in NC since the day afetr we split. Thanks
Cheshire Cat Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 No, no, no! You don't even have to worry about looking rude - she did not acknowledge your birthday, did she? If you send her the card, no matter whether she ignores it or thanks you for it, you are going to feel frustrated.
Art_Critic Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 No !.. I have done it before.. it sucks when they just throw it away and don't say anything... Screw her Simon... she won't respond the way you want her too and if she wanted to talk to you she would.. She know how to get in touch with you and would if she wanted to hear from you.. speaking from recent experience here..
KittenMoon Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 She didn't acknowledge your bday, that sets the precedence.
CrushedOrgans Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 no. birthdays are not "i'm inviting myself back into your life" days.
Author simon_uk Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 Thats pretty unanimous then. Art Critic, I appreciate your post but is your signature some what contradictory? How do you know she binned your card? Simon
Art_Critic Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Thats pretty unanimous then. Art Critic, I appreciate your post but is your signature some what contradictory? How do you know she binned your card? Simon I'm a romantic and have tried to get someone back that I love.. Maybe my sig line is somewhat of a contradiction but the reality is that she won't react the way you want her too.. In your case she blew off your B-day so that is an indication on how she will react to your card. The ex GF that I tried it with was a pretty tight lipped and a pro at NC.. I felt she had feelings for me but was more worried about moving on with someone else than going back to me. No I don't know that she binned it. but by not responding to it she might as well have. Of course you are going to do what your heart wants anyhow in the end.. but just be forewarned that it rarely works the way we want it to.. for some reason that is unknown.
Author simon_uk Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 Thanks Art Critic I am a romantic too. I have tried twice before with other GF's and both times got smacked in the face. I should have learned my lesson the first time. I think I will probably avoid it. I will only be wondering and watching my phone constantly. Not that I am not anyway. But I am sure it will make it worse.
silentcharon Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Yes, don't worry about it. NC IS NC!!!! STICK TO IT! Stay strong....
whichwayisup Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Do not send her a bday card. You will regret it, even if it is a nice thing to do. Bottom line, this woman is not a part of your life anymore, so don't send the card...
monkey00 Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 dont do it! on my ex's bday she tried to get me come out and meet her for her bday after several months of NC..I just ignored her advances. 1 week later it was my bday (ours is in the same month), and not even a peep of contact from her. Ironic isnt it? just dont do it. No girl should get special treatment on her bday, especially not from the ex. If you want to be friends again and as a good gesture, call/text/email her and wish her a good bday.
Vanquish Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 I'm not gunna say don't do it because i think you already know what your going to do. I acknowledged my ex's birthday because im not the kind of person to hold grudges and act like a child especially with peoples emotions. Me and her parents were good friends so i just went to her bday party and hung with her parents and her friends and did my thing, she didn't like that i was talking to her friends and making the majority laugh so she acted childish and made a scene. Its pretty much how much you can take emotionally, if you can handle the rejection again then do it, if not stick to NC. My birthday is coming up and after having surgery and random other things that my ex's mom knew about i never recieved a call seeing if i was ok i do not expect to recieve any kind of birthday acknowlegement even if i acknowledged her birthday.
johan Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Write happy birthday on a bunch of stones. When she comes out of her door on the morning of her birthday, after she gets the door closed and locked behind her, start throwing them at her. Score one point for each body shot, and two points for each one on the forehead.
D-Lish Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Write happy birthday on a bunch of stones. When she comes out of her door on the morning of her birthday, after she gets the door closed and locked behind her, start throwing them at her. Score one point for each body shot, and two points for each one on the forehead. haha. I think I love you Johan. I wasn't planning on getting my ex anything for x-mas... but you've inspired me. Question though... If I happen to get lucky and hit him even once... isn't that breaking the no contact rule then? ? D
johan Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 haha. I think I love you Johan. I wasn't planning on getting my ex anything for x-mas... but you've inspired me. Question though... If I happen to get lucky and hit him even once... isn't that breaking the no contact rule then? ? D It's not technically contact if you are wearing a disguise and are far enough away so that he doesn't know it's you.
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