princessa Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Are you 100% honest with your SO at all times? I like to be, unless it's something really insignificant and could save a lot of stress if not revealed... My guy, on the other hand, sometimes lies to me. I know that cause afterwards he always feels reall guilty, so he just ends up telling me the truth many many days later... He doesn't lie about major things. It's more the type of lies you'd tell your mother about your smoking or drinking habits, just so that you don't stress her. It's like.. suppose you like to get drunk a couple of nights a week, and your gf worries about your health, so she gets really upset when you do. Do you tell her you went out to drink last night or do you tell her a lie to cover up when she asks how you spent your day? On one hand, I can see how a guy could tell a lie just to avoid making me upset. On the other hand, I'm not his mom, he shouldn't be lying to me like that. He's a grown ass man and he makes his own decisions. If he decides to mess up, he should be honest about his decisions. Of course I'll be upset, but Im not gonna ground him either! I'm really not ok with the small lies. They make me doubt him, and they make me paranoid. But I understand where they come from. We all have to lie at times. For myself, if I want to avoid making him upset, i'd rather just tell him that this is what i've decided, and that I don't want to discuss it right now. I'd prefer if he did the same thing instead of lying...
Guest Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 some people learn that little lesson later in life than others. i have a friend that just learned how to be honest with himself and he's like 65! wow. dumbass.
Adunaphel Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 I only have problems with people lying to me when knowing the truth would make me upset.
Author princessa Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 I only have problems with people lying to me when knowing the truth would make me upset. Well dude.. there's upset and UUUUUUUUPPPPPPPPSEEEEEEEEETTTTTT
Adunaphel Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Well dude.. there's upset and UUUUUUUUPPPPPPPPSEEEEEEEEETTTTTT I have to agree. Let's say that my personal rule is: assuming that I could rate how upset I am in a [1-10] scale, If something upsets me n, half-truths about it will upset me n^2, lies will upset me n^3.
Author princessa Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 I have to agree. Let's say that my personal rule is: assuming that I could rate how upset I am in a [1-10] scale, If something upsets me n, half-truths about it will upset me n^2, lies will upset me n^3. OMG that's exactly it!!! So I take it you're honest with your SO bout EVERYTHING?
elijahBailey Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 c'mon angels, there's just no way you can tell your SOs everything! It's like, you would tell them who you fantasize?
Adunaphel Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 OMG that's exactly it!!! So I take it you're honest with your SO bout EVERYTHING? I am currently single, but I tend to be honest about everything I do unless I already know that, or sometimes in spite of the fact that, my SO either does not care or does not want to know. I am not nearly as honest about what is going through my mind and should be addressed/shared, though. But I'm working on it!!!
Author princessa Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 c'mon angels, there's just no way you can tell your SOs everything! It's like, you would tell them who you fantasize? Well that's the equivalent of one of the things that I will not talk about. And if asked straight up I'll tell him I don't wanna talk about it. I'm not gonna lie to him. And well, I don't fantasize about anybody else so I don't have that problem
elijahBailey Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 I am not nearly as honest about what is going through my mind and should be addressed/shared, though. who would be totally honest ?? It would be interesting, though, when the mind-reader gets invented in the future. And if asked straight up I'll tell him I don't wanna talk about it. I'm not gonna lie to him. Exactly. It's the most polite way to refuse to answer a question. I use that a lot !
michelangelo Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Some lies foster harmony between two people. pudgy girl asks: "Does this dress make me look fat?" guy who loves her says: "How could any dress make you look fat? You are beautiful." Then other LIES just should not be said. Betrayed spouse asks: "Did you just cheat with your ex?" Cheating spouse says: "How can you even say that! You're all I want."
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