anto0o Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 i would like to say i hate girls from now on...no more will i ever trust a girl...no more will i ever see a girl the same way...i'm so angry, sad, confused...i feel like a small person...and i never will be able to love again...we have been together for 5 and a half years and goes and does this...its just wrong. the short story is...me and my girlfriend broke up...she started talking to some guy that had "just broken up with his girl of 4 years", me being me during my nc period i always broke it by calling her and trying to talk to her and find out who the guy is...one convo led to another i find out who the kid is...and the kid is a absolute jerk...i used to hang out with him...hes a real jerk and will play her in a heartbeat... she says hes changed and that i should move on...this kid has money, a car, the basement to his parents house...and is good in math...she says she likes him alot...she told me everything...they kissed and she felt good about it...which that was a stab to my heart... but deep down inside i know she still loves me...maybe i'm in denial...but she says she wants to be my friend...but acted mean towards that remark...i told her you know what...ur never gonna get married with someone and ur never gonna be happy with somoene...because u stick with the person u love through thick and thin rich or poor...and u jump ship every time something bad happens...she didn't say a word, then she said i'll invite you to the wedding...i said nah its okay..y would i wanna sign up to the titanic when i know its gonna sink? then i told her you know what...i don't think i hsould be speaking to you...then i feel proud of myself...but i wanted more...i call her back and tell her you know what...i never made you look like a bitch in front of everyone...but ur protraying yourself as a bitch cause ur acting like a sleeze ball...and i hung up...my friends then start to chear me up cause i felt like ****...he had won her heart and i know its fake..." then i see her sister...and she RUNS to me crying and huging me...she says omg ur like my brother ic an't believe my sister did that to you...i start crying again...and shes like don't worry ant i know that kid is a jerk and u could tell my sister is still feeling for you...i said nah...i don't want her back... later on taht night...my friend ims her on his own free will...and tells her not to talk to him anymore and that shes a ****ed up person...and that her relationship with the guy isn't gonna last...even her best friend was like wow ur stupid for even thinking about him... i'm happy for her in a way cause from the wya shes telling me it...shes not rushing into things.."i'm taking it day by day" lil extras about this kid. hes jewish(no problem with them)and his family would only accept jewish people and her family won't accept a jewish person, and she is very big on family. he used to have a myspace with all the girls he has...during his "4 year relationship", he took it down when he started talking to my ex big time player...everyone who knows him knows hes only there for a ****.. was never in a 4 year relationship...i know for a fact because he was with my ex's friend about 2 years ago...and came to prom with us in 03 with another girl...and was messing with another girl after that...i tell my ex that and she ignores it.oh well! he does have money... he has a nice car he has his own basement and is good in math. and supposidly he treats her good...which is a duh when u first meet someone i can't compete with the guy...and don't really want to...i'm not here begging for her back...but i really do still love her...and it hurts to see her with another man...it sucks alot...the point of this thread is that girls should never be trusted, no matter how good of a girl they are...
KittenMoon Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 and is good in math. Just curious- why is this so attractive? and supposidly he treats her good...which is a duh when u first meet someone Exactly. Except, you can't control anyone else except yourself. You can't save her from this guy, if he is indeed a jerk. Maybe she'll learn her lesson, maybe she won't. The hardest this for you is going to be accepting this. Sorry to hear your situation, 5 years is a long time, especially at your age, and I know how it is when you can barely remember anything else- it can be very difficult to imagine anyone else in your life. My sympathies.
Guest Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 don't sweat it man, she has got to do some "soul searching" and you just aren't going to be a part of it...just know that she still loves u and that you will always be in her heart...length and time do make a difference...no matter what she says...the best thing for you to do is to get going with your friends and try to put her behind you...oh and when, (yes i mean when) she contacts you again, try not to seem like you are so disgusted with the situation...hate to say it but take it like a man, no matter what your heart wants you to do...text book rules...don't let your heart dictate your life...
Author anto0o Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 Just curious- why is this so attractive? Exactly. Except, you can't control anyone else except yourself. You can't save her from this guy, if he is indeed a jerk. Maybe she'll learn her lesson, maybe she won't. The hardest this for you is going to be accepting this. Sorry to hear your situation, 5 years is a long time, especially at your age, and I know how it is when you can barely remember anything else- it can be very difficult to imagine anyone else in your life. My sympathies. it is hard to imagine myself with another girl...everything i do involved my ex...like right now i should be at her house...but shes at the kids house =[...of course i asked if they had sex and she says no, that shes not ready for that step yet...but they have made out and she felt good about it...but when her best friend was telling her how much of a jerk he is...her sister was telling me that she was listening to depressing music and that she told her friend she was really depressed and there was alot of things going on in her life...she also imed me late last night calling me an ******* and shes gonna block me from her life...OH WELL
andy_whitewater Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Man, I feel sorry for you. I know your pain, and to be honest I've started to think that I'll never trust girls again. I'm still not sure because I've not found anyone that could replace my ex but I'm hoping that one day there will be someone. I guess the worst thing is that deep deep down, no matter how much hurt she caused and how much I want to move on I am still in love with her. It'll probably be years before I trust and love someone else. Man, just writing that makes me feel worse! Lets hope that there are still a few nice girls out there. I'm sure there are, it'll just be a while before we can appreciate them, because of all the hurt thats been caused. It'd be a pretty sad state of affairs if we let one person ruin our entire dating lives. take care
Author anto0o Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 i don't see how she could move on sooo quickly...i think shes just trying to fill in a void in her life...i don't know... but i'm not the type of guy that will get with a girl for a ****...i've never been that type of guy and never will...i wont love and affection...and i thought i found it in her...and i honestly never saw us becomming apart...we had the best times together...and it hurts to know shes gonna **** someone else...i could just remember all those good times we had too...it hurts me alot..
Guest Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 My biggest mistake was when I was depressed I told her “if you love me you will….” And that was the start of the other issues surrounding our relationship, I just didn’t see it at the time. And so I wrote poison pen emails because I was hurt, not understanding how someone could not communicate with another who they loved, and not exercise basic communication skills. She said she has to fix her life that "is out of control" and that our relationship is too much for her to deal with now. Nothing happened to cause this anger at me if it is anger, I keep asking myself what I did. In fact I thought we had one of the best few days of our relationship prior to this break up (even though I knew something was wrong and had been unhappy)She has forever told me a few times that there is a side of her I have never known and that no one knows. I should have listened better.
ihateslowjams Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 my ex did the same thing to me. she broke up with me because she found another guy thats everything she wants, the day before she broke it off with me. so she strung me along until she found a guy because she said shes been unhappy for the last 2 months. so she got over me as soon as she found this guy and im the heartbroken one here. i don't want her back either. sorry for you to be going through this also, it just happened to me this week. my ex told me shes kissed him, slept with him, and hes EVERYTHING she wants in a guy. they met at work because he was her customer for 5 mins. they've been talking on the phone for days, and only kicked it once together, which they spent the night together. so yea, i know exactly what your going through. i know it hurts, but try and move on and do something productive with your life like working out. it wont get better because you are worried about her or love her. you'll just keep hurting yourself.
Author anto0o Posted October 21, 2006 Author Posted October 21, 2006 i drove her to work today, and i spent 3 hours at her job just talking about bs...not really about me and her just everyday things...she seemed to be thinking about me because of the looks she would give me...while helping her customers she keeps on giving me the glances like "where are you". she ended up asking me if i would ever hang out with her friends and the person shes seeing(doesn't call him a boyfriend), i said i have no problems with ur friends...and that i would love to hang out with them, but not the person shes seeing...she then says what if he was just a friend...i said then yea i could hang out iwth him...then she asks me about him again and i said he maybe a good friend...but as a boyfriend i don't think hes for you...because if he broke up with his "girlfriend of 4 years" to **** with mad bitches...then he'll do it to you...she didn't say anything...but i stood for 3 hours talking to her and if elt real good about it... :love: if we get back together i'm gonna ask to marry her:love:
Guest Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 First Of All, Don't Judge Her...it Is Her Decision...you Are Not Her...maybe She Does Like This Dude...hey...she Has Made A Choose - Taken Responsibility...she Has Stood Up For What She Wants...and You Should Not Make Comments On Who She Wants = That Is Her Deal
ddnnee Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 remember kids, girls are scum of the world. innocent guys will learn this eventually and once we learn... we will treat girls like trash and once we do, girls will love us! I had the SAME EXACT thing happen to me... except she strung me along while she was sleeping with my bestfriend, whom kept it secret from me as well. DAMN YOU! but anyway... i am 24 and pretty much through with girls and focusing on getting $. $ will buy me lots of 18 year olds when i am 40. or lots of 16 year olds in france... or... u get the point. Money buys you pretty girls.
Guest Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 Naw...gurls Are Not Scum...people Are Not Scum....hey, Look At It This Way...is There Really Anything, And I Mean Anything That An Ex Could Do Or Could Have Done To You That Would Hurt U So Much That You Would Hate Them, Hate Women In General? Nawwwwww... Listen - For Me, If I Found Out That While I Was In A Relationship, She Was With One, Two, Three, Hell, 12 Men, And Never Feel Enuff Remorse Or Guilt Or Respect Or Whatever To Stop Or Tell Me, Then Broke Up With Me And Dated 4 Women, Bought Real Estate In Paris, Had A Threesome With Some 19 Year Old From Demark And Then Posted Pictures Of Me Vs., Him On The Internet, Gave Birth To 3 Babies, Etc. - I Would Simply Think... Hey, What The Hell Does That Have To Do With Me? I Didn't Do Any Of Those Things - She Did! Where Am I In This Picture? I Am Not - So Its Not My Problem. What Does Loving Someone Have To Do With How And What They Decide To Do With That Love Given - Nothing I Would Hurt Because They Are Hurting Themselves...i'm Kewl Make Sense.
jimmy20013 Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 remember kids, girls are scum of the world. innocent guys will learn this eventually and once we learn... we will treat girls like trash and once we do, girls will love us! I learnt my lesson. I won't treat woman like trash but I am not going to be that sweet innocent lover anymore.
DamnThisLife Posted October 23, 2006 Posted October 23, 2006 Lets be real people are dishonest. It is sad that women and men cannot just be real with each other. Why don't people just tell you the truth when they want to be with someone else? They do it because they don't want to hurt you? Yeah right. They do it because they don't want to look like a cheater. They know it's wrong or they wouldn't try and hide it. That's the worst part. So move on and let them suffer. Karma man it's a b***h and they will be sorry in the end. They are truly the sad one.
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