Mz. Pixie Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 I understand that arguement. But men would like to eat at the buffet every day... rather than just the same old table. And most men are starving all the time. Would all the men that get too much sex please raise their hand. And before the women that aren't getting any all point out their husband doesn't seem interested, sorry to say but if they were at the buffet they'd probably be eager to munch on someone else. That is why sex ought to be like wine. You have your favorite, but it's OK to sample a different bottle once in a while. I can guarantee you that my husband wouldn't agree! We're always laughing about how not getting any is not his problem. He's interested as much as I am we just have a scheduling conflict from time to time. He's a teacher so even before we met he supplemented his income with another job. Many nights he's home hours after I go to bed and he has to get up early the next day. But we make up for lost time when we do have the time! You're right, I shouldn't have presumed that your vows were traditional so forgive my overstep, however that's usually the way it goes. I think it's like A said. It's a territorial thing with guys. You know my H has had a threesome before (before me) with two women. Yet he would never consider us doing the same with another man. Not that I even want to but he would definitely nix that idea, even if we were both open to the other. I have a friend who he and his wife participate a little in "the lifestyle" but he prefers to see her with other men. To each his own. I agree that with you about the things you said about men vs women and emotional affairs and physical affairs. I also think that most women do not get how men feel about the sex involved in that. I think recovery for the most part is possible, but it sure must be hard. I think many try and fail. Yet marriage is hard and the divorce doesn't end the issues between you and your former spouse because you still have to deal with that person if you have children. One day we'll be grandparents together. That's why I hope at some point we can effectively communicate about the kids- but that's still a pipedream for now.
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 wait a minute if men see sex as sex only then it should be much easier to realize that a cheating wife only had her sexual needs fulfilled by another guy. That's the point. I'd care less about her having her EN's filled than having her hole filled... It's the sex that mattered in the affair less than the emotional side. I need to reword that but it would seem a man would think a woman having an A is more like him and just wanted to get her rocks off... Of that she need the other guy to get her rocks of because her H as inadequate in the penis department and his love making therefore just didn't do it for her. I.e. her sex life at home sucked, so she had an affair with the OM because if his sex life sucked that is why he'd go to the OW. It isn't because he wife doesn't compliment him thrice daily. or is it a man sex/ territory issue.... like someone driving your new car before you even put 50 miles on it? The deal tends to be revolved around "Are those kids really mine or some other guys"? Short of a DNA test (which should be required at birth by law) a guy doesn't know for sure he's the father.
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