Guest Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 I'm a 26 year old male. I've known this particular woman for 3 years now. After two months of knowing her, I told her one day that we should go out on a date. She agreed to it. Problem is, that we never went on one. This was due to our busy college schedule. We stayed friends, dated other people, but still stayed friends. I have noticed that we really get along when we hang out together. She gives me a smile at times and laughs at my jokes like only ex girlfriends have done in the past. Fast forward to today...I am in a 1 1/2 year relationship with someone I love, and she's starting a relationship with someone. There are times that when I see her, I just want to tell her that I wish I could be with her. I guess out of old feelings I have. I don't want to say anything because I don't want to seem as the "stupid" one out of the two. I guess my question is for the women in this board...have you ever been or are you in a situation in which you've liked a guy (although, you never admitted it) but never acted up on it? What would you do if the guy told you how he really felt? Now, please don't come down on me saying "oh but you have a gf now!" statements. I know what I have, and I wouldn't change it for anything. But, I would still would like to say something to this woman just to see if she feels the same way. I know for a fact that nothing will ever come out of it. This is because we have been friends for too long...and know everything about each other these past 3 years. I do think about those times when we did hang out as college students together now. I think these memories are messing my head up!
whichwayisup Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 You have to be very careful if you choose to tell her. By doing this, what are you expecting? If you know nothing will come of it, then why bother ruining a good friendship with someone you've known for a long time. You do know you're taking that chance if you spill it... If you tell her, it might mess her head up too, then that could lead to bigger problems, especially since you both are with other people now. The choice is yours, just don't do this out of ego or curosity. That's not fair.
elijahBailey Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Now, please don't come down on me saying "oh but you have a gf now!" statements. I know what I have, and I wouldn't change it for anything. But you have a g/f now !!! :lmao: Listen, I know where you're coming from. You want closure. I've felt like that before in the past. And only once did I sort closure. And it turned out to be meaningless. I told myself after that, what did I achieve? Basically nothing! The dynamics of the relationship has changed over the years. And what you're fantasizing about is the dynamics of yester years. You may be in for a rude shock if you pursue it. Memories are just what they are. Let sleeping dragons lie.
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