everlong Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 i am posting this just to get a range of opinions to help me make up my mind about something. about a year and a half ago, my gf broke up with me. we had been together for about 2 years but during those two years we did a lot of creative things together - painting, photography, recorded music, things like that. well, i did the ususal purging of pictures, emails, letters, etc. and after a while i move on and started dating again. i met someone and things have taken off to the point where we are seriously thinking about 'real commitments' [you know, house, marriage, etc.] and even though i know that she is totally secure in herself, me and the relationship, i want to make sure i have done everything i can to ensure that she feels wanted and loved by me. here is the problem, she is a musician as i am and we are recording a cd together. now this is nothing strange, i have been recording music since i was 17 and have done so with other women, other men, a wide range of people. it is just part of my creative soul. however, i had recorded a cd with my ex and i have started thinking that perhaps i should simply delete everything about it as it is basically an attachment to the past that i no longer want to be reminded off, yet, it is a document of that moment in time. i am leaning towards erasing it. would u keep it or delete the orginal tracks and not release it again? any suggestions?
Matt L Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 I dunno man, I'm inclined to say keep that old stuff. I mean, obviously, burn it onto a CD and lock that CD someplace so that you don't have be reminded of it, except when you want to be. I'm of a "waste nothing" school of thought, and it often happens that songs I wrote long ago that I'm almost embarassed to listen to now are songs that I revisit, hoping to extract new ideas from. Maybe they remind you of your ex, but there could be some great musical ideas contained within. I say hang on for now, what's the worst that could come of it?
Author everlong Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 good gawd...i can't believe i ever asked that question! i just had this whole ex thing out of my head, then i saw the cd and, madness....like posting that question on here! what the hell i am doing letting a ghost back inside my head...wow! i guess the only real way is to dump everything. i really didn't think that it would come to this but, man, to really move on, fully completely i really have to trash every single thing related to that time... and stop going on any freaking site like this...in fact, time to get rid of the computer and put this madness behind me. ok...thanks folks. in a weird way you all have helped. i am just angry at myself for believing - oh never mind, I've wasted enough time on this.
magda Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 You'll probably never read this as your computer may now be broken into a thousand bits on the street, but I agree that you should chuck the stuff. Why the hell not? It's not like you'll be losing a piece of your soul or anything dramatic like that. I firmly believe that we should only keep things in our lives that have positive meanings to us NOW. Not something we MAY look back fondly to later. Be confident that later on in life you'll have plenty of other great stuff to look back on and won't be hurting for this piece of work.
Author everlong Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 u know what? i did lose a piece of my soul...do u have any idea how hard it is to listen to a voice that shared a life and wrote it together and then they decide that a simple 'hello' is too much.....all i asked for was her voice..nothing more...i will remember this all my life
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