Anastasia0309 Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Okay, So me and my BF broke up about 1 mon & 1/2 ago. We really do love each other but we had been fighting alot...... Alot like everyday. Basically over little thing like me coming home to dirty dishes and his friend hanging out all the time. Things that I didn't have to make a big deal over. I lost my father about 19 months ago suddenly to a massive heartattack. Two days after his 55th birthday. So, I kinda went into a depression and took my BF on a emotional rollercoster with me. Anyways, We broke up because he said I need to deal with this on my own now. He had done all that he could to help me..... he doesn't feel like there is anything he could do to help me with now. Which I was pissed and hurt about at the time but I have realized so much with the breakup. I just don't really know if our relationship has any hope. I mean it was really hard for both of us to let go of eachother. I mean... We had our problems but we Love each other to the fullest. We've cried together and he calls my brother and mother to see if I'm doing better. When I eventually moved out I was Very Depressed. I lost 13lbs and didn't stop crying for like 2 weeks. So, he knew that I couldn't talk to him at the time because it just made me more depressed. So, he would call my brother like 2 times a week and my mother twice untill I told him I don't want any contact with him about 2 weeks ago. The NC thing was going good up untill Saturday at like 1:30A.M. when YES..... I called him. But it went really good. We both cried and said that for some reason we could both fell each other miss the other. That might sound weird but it's true. We talked for like 20 min and we both cried and said we missed each other and loved each other. He recently moved out of our old apartment and still has my comforter and pillow case, which are Very Girly, on our bed. He also took some of my stuff I left behind to his new place. He also tells me that he's not going to talk to any girls he just going to focus on his Djing career and he just wants me to focus on getting better. But when I ask him if he want's to be with me in the future he says he doesn't know. So, I'm a little confused. Help anyone?
bluechocolate Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Basically over little thing like me coming home to dirty dishes and his friend hanging out all the time. Those aren't necessarily little things. If they are important to you then they are important. But when I ask him if he wants to be with me in the future he says he doesn't know. So, I'm a little confused. Help anyone? What are you confused about? He says he doesn't know if he wants to be with you in the future. Seems pretty clear to me. Go back to NC & focus on getting better, but not for him, for yourself. Anyways, We broke up because he said I need to deal with this on my own now. You need to deal with the death of your father on your own? I hope there is more to this than just that 'cause that is callous in the extreme. Of course you were on a f**king emotional roller coaster! .....he doesn't feel like there is anything he could do to help me with now. Except break up with you. Charming.
Author Anastasia0309 Posted October 20, 2006 Author Posted October 20, 2006 Basically over little thing like me coming home to dirty dishes and his friend hanging out all the time. Those aren't necessarily little things. If they are important to you then they are important. But when I ask him if he wants to be with me in the future he says he doesn't know. So, I'm a little confused. Help anyone? What are you confused about? He says he doesn't know if he wants to be with you in the future. Seems pretty clear to me. Go back to NC & focus on getting better, but not for him, for yourself. Anyways, We broke up because he said I need to deal with this on my own now. You need to deal with the death of your father on your own? I hope there is more to this than just that 'cause that is callous in the extreme. Of course you were on a f**king emotional roller coaster! .....he doesn't feel like there is anything he could do to help me with now. Except break up with you. Charming. Yeah, This is alot more then just breaking up with me to deal with it on my own. We were having alot of problems for a while. We were both not wanting to admit I was Depressed. For the longest time I was blaming my unhappiness on him. Just alot of stuff. I just don't understand how he can say he doesn't know. I could understand that He can't say for Sure " We'll be together" but he can say and does know if he wants to be or not. Ya know what I'm saying. Does anyone know what I'm trying to say? I just feel like he's giving mixed messages or false hope. Or maybe I just really need to not know about the future. It's just driving me crazy not being able to control the future.
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