Guest Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 like other ppl v both started out well , he was in love with me i never realized , n when i realized he loved me , it was too late he already been into some other relatioship . I have bcome more needy 2 him n jealous abt his gf though i have no grudges against his gf . Now i and him are just so called FRIENDS , he is world to me n i help him everytime he needs . He has shared most of his problems in his life with me. It hurts me each day knowing that he has gf, it makes me insecured badly . But then sometimes somethings are not in ur hand. Its torchering when he talks abt his gf n stuff ,I Dont want him 2 know how i feel 4 him cos he still has trust over me as a frnd n i want 2 b faithful 2 him , may b he was waiting n that time i had been casual, now i dunno how long i can hold on with him , cos i love him unconditionally. I did try 2 get over him by datin other ppl n meetin other ppl but nothin work out well. I cant believe v r still frnds after all that , Hope i find some other way out cos its impossible 2 leave him . He who means the most in my life ditched me thats wat i think so i have bcome more stronger , but surely lost faith over true love. SO MY QUESTION IS TO GUYS y u do such things ? n even girls can reply? N y is he still hanging around with me ?
typical Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 Okay, normally in this situation, I would not be so caring...However, something about this situation has me feeling bad for you. Maybe because it hurts horribly when the one you love loves someone else. Its clear from your post that you feel pain over this situation. I have some questions: he was in love with me i never realized Why did you never realize he was in love with you? n when i realized he loved me How did you realize he loved you? Did he tell you? Did you ask him? I have bcome more needy 2 him In what way have you become more needy? Now i and him are just so called FRIENDS , Why do you say "so called friends"? he is world to me n i help him everytime he needs How do you help him? Do you have to see him often? How long has he been with this GF, and you said that he talks about her alot. How does he talk about her? In a good way? A bad way? This is a tricky situation, because on one hand, I would advise that you back off and leave him alone, but on the other hand, I can tell that you are in pain and wish to be with him. Why didnt you tell him how you felt before he got a GF? I need more information before I can give you advice on this one.
Guest Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 like other ppl v both started out well , he was in love with me i never realized , n when i realized he loved me , it was too late he already been into some other relationship . I have become more needy 2 him n jealous abt his gf though i have no grudges against his gf . Now i and him are just so called FRIENDS , he is world to me n i help him every time he needs . He has shared most of his problems in his life with me. It hurts me each day knowing that he has gf, it makes me insecure . But then sometimes somethings are not in ur hand. Its torchering when he talks abt his gf n stuff ,I Dont want him 2 know how i feel 4 him cos he still has trust over me as a frnd n i want 2 b faithful 2 him , may b he was waiting n that time i had been casual, now i dunno how long i can hold on with him , cos i love him unconditionally. I did try 2 get over him by datin other ppl n meeting other ppl but nothing work out well. I cant believe v r still frnds after all that , Hope i find some other way out cos its impossible 2 leave him . He who means the most in my life ditched me thats wat i think so i have become stronger , but surely lost faith over true love. SO MY QUESTION IS TO GUYS y u do such things ? n even girls can reply? N y is he still hanging around with me ? JUST CALL OR EMAIL HIM - I'M SURE IF U TALK THINGS MIGHT NOT MAKE U AS NERVOUS...WHAT'S WRONG?
Guest Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 Okay, normally in this situation, I would not be so caring...However, something about this situation has me feeling bad for you. Why did you never realize he was in love with you? How did you realize he loved you? Did he tell you? Did you ask him? In what way have you become more needy? Why do you say "so called friends"? How do you help him? Do you have to see him often? How long has he been with this GF, and you said that he talks about her alot. How does he talk about her? In a good way? A bad way? This is a tricky situation, because on one hand, I would advise that you back off and leave him alone, but on the other hand, I can tell that you are in pain and wish to be with him. Why didn't you tell him how you felt before he got a GF? I need more information before I can give you advice on this one. first of all thnks 4 replyin Why did you never realize he was in love with you? well bcos he told me b4 that he loves me but at that time i thought he was just jokin i didnt bothered abt it . I take all things casually hardly we would become serious How did you realize he loved you? Did he tell you? Did you ask him? Well cos v shared every minute detail abt life n he told me he is not going 2 leave me , well when i told him abt how much he means in my life , he said he knows abt it . i didnt ask him whether he loves me , bcos i dont think there is any point 2 ask him abt this cos we both r staying miles apart . In what way have you become more needy? whenever i meet him i don't like he chatting with some other frnds or doing his work i want his full attention n i dont like when he talks abt his frnds or any1else , i become possessive at times , thats my fault i know Why do you say "so called friends"? Well bcos may b v don't want 2 lose our friendship v started as frnds How do you help him? i help him whenever he needs my advice , if he is having problem, i just give advice n support him when he is upset or nervous n same way he helps out . Do you have to see him often? How long has he been with this GF, and you said that he talks about her alot. How does he talk about her? In a good way? A bad way? Recently i haven't seen him cos i had a bit fight In a week 3 or 4 times .It was 5 or 6 months only that he made his gf but he knows her 2 yrs back.Whenever he misses his gf he throws emotional frustration over me , he says he misses his gf n stuff n he talks abt her likes n dislikes . He told he want 2 marry her gf but then he told he is not sure abt marriage , if he gets some1 more closer girl he would break up with his gf Why didnt you tell him how you felt before he got a GF? Well bcos i was not confident abt his reaction to my proposal , may b he would lose trust over me
typical Posted October 25, 2006 Posted October 25, 2006 If I am a bit confused over this, you must be as well. Okay... How old are you and he? cos we both r staying miles apart How far is miles apart? As in, different states? Whenever he misses his gf Are his GF and him in a long distance relationship as well? he says he misses his gf n stuff n he talks abt her likes n dislikes . He told he want 2 marry her gf Do you think he says these things to make you jealous to see how you would react? but then he told he is not sure abt marriage , if he gets some1 more closer girl he would break up with his gf Do you mean that if he gets a girl that lives closer to him, or that if he gets a girl that will be emotionally closer to him? He cant be that emotionally attached to his girlfriend when he is making comments like this: if he gets some1 more closer girl he would break up with his gf Disclaimer: (Regardless, I want to make something very clear. Do not get involved in a physical affair with a man who has a wife/gf. You owe it to yourself to respect yourself enough, and your morals, integrity, honesty, mind, body, and soul to find a man who is single who will be able and willing to devote all of his love, time and energy soley on you. Just remember that.) Do you feel like you need to tell him how you feel? Is it eating you up inside? How is he like with you? whenever i meet him i don't like he chatting with some other frnds or doing his work i want his full attention n i dont like when he talks abt his frnds or any1else , i become possessive at times Does he know you feel like this? Yes, this is something you definately want to watch. It is unhealthy to be like this, maybe this is something you could work on, perhaps you can gain some understanding of why you feel this way towards him, and maybe through understanding why, you can create ways to overcome this aspect of yourself.
Guest Posted October 26, 2006 Posted October 26, 2006 If I am a bit confused over this, you must be as well. Okay... thnks again 4 replyin but WHY u r askin me too many questions , is it some quiz contest going on ?lol anways i think ur questions r helpin me out 2 think more clear way heres ur answers How old are you and he? both of us 19 How far is miles apart? As in, different states? different countries, uk , phillipines Are his GF and him in a long distance relationship as well? yup his gf in usa , i told him y he did that he told me he doesnt like girls in uk cos they have nasty behaviour [ NO OFFENCE 2 UK GIRLS] Do you think he says these things to make you jealous to see how you would react? yup ,50% sure. I realized i loved him only when he made me jealous saying things abt his gf. Do you mean that if he gets a girl that lives closer to him, or that if he gets a girl that will be emotionally closer to him? well i was going 2 ask him that but then i didnt get guts 2 ask that ! next time i will ask him n tell u this answer He cant be that emotionally attached to his girlfriend when he is making comments like this: There is possiblity that he is not sure abt his gf , cos he also told he wants 2 get married 2 his gf remember! Disclaimer: (Regardless, I want to make something very clear. Do not get involved in a physical affair with a man who has a wife/gf. You owe it to yourself to respect yourself enough, and your morals, integrity, honesty, mind, body, and soul to find a man who is single who will be able and willing to devote all of his love, time and energy soley on you. Just remember that.) there r no chances in getting physically involve, lmao Do you feel like you need to tell him how you feel? Is it eating you up inside? yes I want 2 tell him but then situations r not going 2 change [ i mean distance will b there] n there r chances he may lose trust over me if i express my feelings 2 wards him n secondly it will b foolish on my side if i tell him my feelings, possibly he is still considering me as frnd! It does eat me up inside ,at times but now I am trying 2 accept the thing that distance will b barrier between us. How is he like with you? He talks polite , n respects me in the way he has never said a swear words 2 me uptill now! Ya sometimes he ignores me ,I also ignore him at times bcos i feel very down , like wise v keep updating abt our lives, family,school, music, food , all kinds of things n communication is not a problem with us , v have also argued.He likes 2 tease me but it is not offending teasing .We both care 4 each other presently also v care.He has lied abt few things but then he also confesses abt it. Does he know you feel like this? Yes, this is something you definately want to watch. It is unhealthy to be like this, maybe this is something you could work on, perhaps you can gain some understanding of why you feel this way towards him, and maybe through understanding why, you can create ways to overcome this aspect of yourself. Yes once i gave a hint abt it , but then i thought not 2 tell him directly cos he may get upset abt how i feel n posibly v may land up breaking our frndship,I am not sure abt how he would react. Likewise he does understand me more than wat i understand him , but v just dont open up some things n i dont think its unhealthy cos situation r goin 2 b same n i should accept it. Though it hurts me n makes me insecured but i am not sure how he would react with this
Recommended Posts