Girl05 Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and we live together. He has a very low sex drive and he drinks a lot, which I think contributes to his low sex drive. When we do have sex he rarely goes down on me and when he does you can tell he doesn't know what he is doing. He has no skills down there at all. He is clumsy at switching positions. He is not adventurous and says things to ruin the mood half the time. I am sick of living like this. I know why people have affairs now. I have talked to him about this again and again and he never gets any better. I miss sex with the ex, but we are long estranged. I truly am starting to think that you need to be with someone you are compatible with sexually. There has to be other people who feel like I do. I am not promoting infidelity at all, but I can understand why people go to those lengths. I don't know what to do anymore, but break up with him to date other people. In any other way he is the nicest guy, but sexually he is boring.
Tony T Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 There are many people who are with people they truly love and accept the sex in whatever fashion it comes because of this love. And, there's you. I don't think your love for your boyfriend trumps your desire for first class sex...and there's nothing at all wrong with that. You need to find a guy who pleases you in the bedroom and go from there. For you, that aspect is very important. No man is going to win your heart...or keep it indefinitely...unless he pleases you sexually and that's the way it should be for you. Lay it right on the line for your boyfriend. Let him know this will not work. Either he gets a lot better in the sex department, with your help and explicit instruction, or you'll find someone else. Yeah, be blunt about it because that's the way it is! He really does need to know just how important this is to you. That's part of your obligation to him in having a relationship. Poor communication will destroy most any couple just as fast as keeping silent or not saying exactly what you mean.
Enema Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 Tony's on the right track I think. Just one thing to add: If you need more than he can give you, for gods sake, break up with him before you go elsewhere.
whichwayisup Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 It depends on how important sex is to you. But, if you're unhappy, don't settle. Break up with him and find someone who is better suited for you in ALL area's, not just in the bedroom.
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