Mr.happy

[broken wings]

I had posted a bit this past month regarding my affair with a MM who got caught. It has been a few weeks now and our no contact has been off and on. Thru the conversations we have I have have learned that "FOR NOW" his wife has done a complete turnaround and become attentive and sexual again..the works! I am happy for him because we were more than anything friends and we promised to remain so no matter what, My thoughts are though how do I stop the sad feelings about feeling a little used. I feel like laughing but crying knowing and realizing that this whole thing was just a lesson for me in walking away with nothing left to show for all those years. I would feel worse if he was out on the street right now but OW how did you guys cope with seeing them work things out? I need advice not nasty comments please. thanks..he has been the one calling I have been good about NC just so you all know..I am moving on..and this site has been really, really helpful.

[Scrivdog]

Don't worry. His wife will stop being sexual in about a month, maybe less and in three months, it'll be back to what it was.

[GuestI'mHere]

It doesn't matter whether his wife will be back to her old habits or not. You want someone who deserves you, not someone who's going to lay you on the back burner now that his marriage is all gravy. It is time to move on.

 

Have a NC ceremony, where you can get out that anger. (You'd probably still be sad, but you can throw all his stuff away.) Really look what's he doing to you. Feel sad for his wife (who is always the loser. She keeps an infidel and you can move on happily without getting half of you stuff taken in court.)

 

It's time to focus on you! You have to love yourself now. It's not that hard! Get some friends. (You do have those right?) Get a gay guy-who are the best companions and move on.

[PoshPrincess]

I had posted a bit this past month regarding my affair with a MM who got caught. It has been a few weeks now and our no contact has been off and on. Thru the conversations we have I have have learned that "FOR NOW" his wife has done a complete turnaround and become attentive and sexual again..the works! I am happy for him because we were more than anything friends and we promised to remain so no matter what, My thoughts are though how do I stop the sad feelings about feeling a little used. I feel like laughing but crying knowing and realizing that this whole thing was just a lesson for me in walking away with nothing left to show for all those years. I would feel worse if he was out on the street right now but OW how did you guys cope with seeing them work things out? I need advice not nasty comments please. thanks..he has been the one calling I have been good about NC just so you all know..I am moving on..and this site has been really, really helpful.

 

Broken, I really feel for you. My now ex-MM has decided not to leave. He says not for W, but for the kids, although I know she had a surprise party for his birthday the other week so she is obviously making an effort in some areas. I am trying to be pleased for him too as I care about him enough to let him go. Hard though as he doesn't seem to be too happy - more resigned if anything. You ARE doing the right thing - we both are - and it's SO tough but I am sure we will get there eventually (she says). It hurts me like crazy to think that I no longer have a future with my MM but I guess we have to treat this (like everything in life) as a learning curve. I feel physically sick at the thought of him working things out at home but I know it's the 'right' thing for his family and they have to come first.

[Guest]

so what this tells you is that you are were only used for sex and an ego boost, and his wife is and always will be number one, I wonder how happy and sexual she would feel if she knew what a lying cheat he was? DONT GO THERE if he calls again.