Guest Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 hi. I really dont have time to post my whole story so I try to trim it down a bit. My gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She teaches school and owns her own business, so this time of year has gotten esp. hectic for her. Numorous times times she has had to cancel plans with me due to her obligations. I, like an idiot, would sometimes cop an attitude about it and that is what ultimately drove her away. The week of the breakup she went out on a girls night with some of my friends gf's. One friends gf told me she had talked to her alot that night about us. My ex said she thinks about me, and was asked if she ever wanted it to be more than friends again. She wasnt sure if maybe we needed to establish a strong friendship and kind of rekindle things, or what. I wrote my ex a note and took it out to her house the next day. The next morning she sent me a text that said "Well i was thinking about you here at school" and that she thought the note was sweet. Later that weekend we were all supposed to meet at this festival. She cancelled again but ended up going up after some persuasion from a friend. She called to let me know she was there. I called her back that night and we had our first non-breakup conversation until 130 am. She said, "im glad u called back" and we left it at that. 2 nights later she sends me a text to let me know her computer isnt working so if i sent her any mesages, thats why she didnt respond. Cuz she didnt want me to think she was ignoring me. The next night she calls just to tell me something about her dog. We talk for about 40 minutes, again nothing about our situation. later that week my friends gf called to tell me she flat out asked my ex "is he wasting his time being friends, is that all thats on ur mind? Cuz if it is, I will tell him" Now, im not sure what the tone was, but she said no im not. That she appreciates that we can talk about things other than the breakup and that I text sometimes to say hello or goodmorning. The next day she forwards me an email that has to do with my job and says "I thought of you when i read this seein how this could be u when u start working" Then puts a <3 by her name. I wrote her back but she didnt get it till monday. The next day I leave work and get a text from her just asking if I got to go to the football game. I told her no i had to work and that i hope she has a good weekend. She responds with, "I will, u too. I will give u a call tmw" Now heres the tricky part... Now when i wrote her the email back I just said that I had a long hard week but talking to her made it alittle better. She responds monday not even acknowleging I said it. On top of that, did not even call me sunday when she said she would. I just immediately started thinking its over. I talked to my friends gf for some advice and she brought up that maybe we should all go to a movie together. I never thought anything of it. That night the girl calls and says my ex will go to the movie. She said she didnt hesitate at all when she was asked, and it was made clear that it was not my idea, and it wasnt to put pressure on her. My ex said she'd go and maybe after her and I can split off from them and talk by ourselves. My ex calls that night and we bs for about 20 minutes then she brings up the movie. I just said the girl kind of sprung it on me but that i would go. When the call ended she said "I Gueeeess i'll see u thursday" The next day she responded to another friendly email I sent. All she said was, Hope ur feeling better, got to get back to work. (Maybe see you Thurs. if u are feeling better) I was having second thoughts cuz i wasnt sure if this movie would be too awkward or a good idea. I call my friends gf and tell her im thinking of not going. She said I better go cuz she thinks my ex is looking forward to it. Im not sure how true that is tho. I told her I just keep thinking this, and thinking that. She told me do her a favor and dont think. She knows whats going on. Still, im not sure if I can believe her judgement. Ive had situations like this in the past, and all talking about it does it rip my heart out. My ex has called me 3 times since the breakup, I have called once. Yet she hasnt even acknowledged that I have said I enjoy talking to her or that it made my night better when I did. And I just cant help think that if my ex really wanted to talk to work things out, as she knows how I feel, it wouldnt take someone asking her to a movie with me to do it. If it wasnt a talk she was looking to avoid, wouldnt she have just called and told me herself, if it was anything good?? I hate hate to have false hope but I hear what my friends gf tells me, who swears she has not embellished, or exagerated anything, yet my ex acts kind of standoffish, but has still called to talk on occasion. Im not sure what to expect or how to act. Im just scared to death come the next day I'll feel 1000 times worse than I do now. I have never gotten back with an ex after a breakup, im not sure how to go about it or how it feels. Im so worried and confused.
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