anana Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I met a guy almost an year ago..we had 2 incredable nights but the weekiend was over and he had to leave (he lives more than 1,000 miles away from me) So I thought: yes, I liked him, we had a great time but he is leaving so this is it. But surprisingly we stayed in touch and escpecialy the first months I think we were talking 24/7. Of course I started falling for him and he was falling for me (at least that is what he was saying) We started talking about meeting again...well, we have planned this so many times already that I can't even count them but we've never met, and the problem is always on his end.. This is really frustrating to me, I just don't understand anything...Now we are not talking that often but we keep in touch. And every single time we talk he will remind me the time we spent together, how nice it was....I am trying to stop talking to him at all because I think he is just playing and I definitely dont like the rules of this game.. but I like him too much, so I can't.. I really need an advice, if someone could please help me understand what is this between us? What does he want? How do I talk to him, do I talk to him at all??
MikeC Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 That kind of distance is really just too far for something to happen. You will most likely end up heart-broken if you don't break it off now. You had 2 nights of fun and that was it. Especially with this 'game' he is playing about meeting. Either you meet or you don't.
Island Girl Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 If you have planned on meeting and it has never happened, with the problem always being on his end, then unfortunately you are going to have to just put away the wishful thinking. Enjoy the memories of the glorious weekend. And I wish I had better news for you but I think he is telling you everything you need to know by his actions, or lack there of. Unless you want to be phone buddies forever stop making it easy for him to string you along. If you DO mean that much to him you'll see some action (by way of a trip to see you) FAST. If you cut off the conversations and he just keeps calling. Well, if you answer you are no better off than you are now. I'd make sure to cut it off quickly, cleanly, and with the statement that, "if you wanted me you would have come to see me even once out of all of those times. I am done thinking there is going to be action when clearly there is NONE. Good-bye." Move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Surely there are others out there who you will meet and be attracted to. Then you'll have more than a weekend of memories to build on.
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