dreamingofdays Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I dont know what to think. I started talking to this guy 10/3/06, we met for the first time on 10/8/06 we had a great time. We have alot of the same things in common. Then we talked that whole week after and still got along great. He told me how much I meant to him and that he hasnt felt this way in a long time and that it was a little scary for him. I told him it was for me also. He asked to be exclusive and wanted me to be his girlfriend. I told him I didnt want to be hurt and he said that he would never hurt me. I agreed. On 10/14/06 we had another date, I understand that this was a little fast but we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up in bed. It was great, he didnt act like anything was wrong when he took me home, we even made plans on another date for this weekend, now he says he has to think about how he feels about us and has gone on a trip and wants me to give him until the end of the week to see how he feels about us. I want to know what other people think about this, and would really like to hear a guys opinion on this as well. PLEASE HELP:confused:
Guest Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 sounds like my past week. Ay yay yay. I have no advice for you sweetie, but I wanted to let you know I am in a very similar situation and am not sure whether to feel 1) like an idiot or 2) like an idiot. I think we both moved too fast. Hopefully the kind folks here can give us some insight. Did we get played, people???
typical Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 Well, I find it HIGHLY suspect that: He asked to be exclusive and wanted me to be his girlfriend. and: He told me how much I meant to him and that he hasnt felt this way in a long time and that it was a little scary for him and: I didnt want to be hurt and he said that he would never hurt me. and as soon as this happens: we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up in bed. he is all of a sudden "confused" and "unsure": now he says he has to think about how he feels about us and has gone on a trip and wants me to give him until the end of the week to see how he feels about us. Why, just a week or so before ( before he got some tail) he knew EXACTLY how he felt....even asking you this: He asked to be exclusive and wanted me to be his girlfriend. What do YOU think is going on here? He doesnt need more time to "think", (maybe to think about how he can make his great escape) he was using you and it makes me sick to my stomach. The mere fact that he was preying on your emotions like a f-ing coward makes me ill. You should be angry, and you should also call him and tell him that after careful consideration, and alot of "thinking" you have come to the conclusion that you just dont see a point in continuing this saga. It might be a bit painful, but learn from this and move on now. Dont be sucked back into his black souless pit void of any emotions but his own. Not to worry, if he really wasnt playing with you, and he was just "confused"...he will make it known by his actions.
FELIZE Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 Why do women give up "the cookies" first? [dreamingofdays quote:] "On 10/14/06 we had another date, I understand that this was a little fast but we started making out and one thing lead to another and we ended up in bed" Dont let your feelings take over, learn to hold out! [dreamingofdays quote:] "now he says he has to think about how he feels about us and has gone on a trip and wants me to give him until the end of the week to see how he feels about us" And you're waiting??? For HIM to decide, what HE feels???...about the two of you?? Uh.....dont you have some say-so......... as well as him?
Guest Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 I think before you ever have sex with someone, you have to ask yourself if you are ready for the consequences. And you should wait until you ARE ready for the consequences. For me, I like to take my time to get to know someone. Not only does this give me time to make an informed decision on whether he's really interested in ME or just the goodies, but I also know that if I talk to him and tell him my feelings, and he assures me that he wouldnt do what I fear, and i take a chance and trust him and make myself vulnerable. Even if he DOES split after, I wont have any regrets. I'll know that not only was I true to myself, i waited until _I_ was ready, I opened myself up and took a chance, and if after that he leaves, the problem is HIS. But the key to no regrets is being true to YOURself. It sounds like you might have some regrets and that is why you probably feel so bad. Ask yourself why you regret what you did? And what can you do to prevent that from happening again? Maybe you got involved too soon, maybe you didnt. That's a personal choice, something only you can answer for yourself. But more importantly, realize you did something of your own choice. Were you true to yourself? If so, then you shouldnt have any regrets.
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