Charisma Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I have a special event coming up in a couple of weeks and wanted to know If it’s okay to invite someone I used to date a couple of months ago to accompany me. Our relationship didn't work out but we used to be friends. Everyone I know from work is bringing someone and didn't want to feel left out. I don't even know anyone who could go with me other than him. I also enjoy his company and thought my fellow workers would like him. I accept the fact that he doesn't want a relationship with me but I was hoping to not go alone to this. Should I ask him?
Leikela Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 Did you guys casually date or were you in a serious relationship? If it was a casual kind of dating, then I don't see why you shouldn't invite him. If he has another girlfriend, then it's a bad move but if you're both single, who does it hurt? There's nothing wrong with just going as friends as long as you make it clear to him that that's all there is to it.
Walk Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I think it's a really bad move. Potentially, if you two were still friends, still talking and hanging out occasionally as friends, then I'd say it was ok as long as intentions were clear. But sounded like you two don't keep in contact, and he hasn't shown any desire to continue staying in contact with you. Plus.. I don't mean this derogatory, because I've been there before. But it's kind of desperate. The only reason you want to take him is because you don't want to go alone. How would you feel if a guy who hadn't called you in months, called you up and explained that he wanted you to go to a party with him because he had NO ONE else to ask. That he didn't want you there for you, but just so the people there wouldn't think he was a loser for going alone. I don't think you'd be terrible thrilled by it. I'd be different if you were thinking this would be something he would enjoy and that's why you wanted to invite him. I think it's a bad idea to ask him, and I honestly don't think people are going to care whether you brought someone or not.
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