superfreak Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 So I've been involved in this ongoing saga, "Does he like me? Doesn't he like me?" I'm totally... Maybe not "in love," but a rather strong case of "in like or lust" with this guy who happens to fulfill a great many of the criteria I have for a relationship partner. In fact, he's the only man I've been interested in for about a year--everyone else seems to pale in comparison. In fact, to be totally honest, there is no "everyone else." He is the only potential prospect I've run across, and, frankly, I put all my eggs into one basket and developed this humongous crush and now... My suspicions are correct: he is in a long-term committed relationship with someone and has been for years. He seems to love her, and I'm pleased by that. He also is ethical, and I'm pleased by that. I am ethical in that sense as well in that I don't want any part of an affair or anything of that nature. I am happy to have him as a friend now, and I am also very proud to know him. Only... The feelings are still there. I'm so disappointed. I don't want to avoid him or anything, I enjoy spending time with him and will probably continue to do so for some time to come. I... Wow, I really liked him. I wish... Nothing bad to happen to him or his lover, or anything rotten like that. I wish them the best, totally, and I bet his lady friend and I could be friends as well. I just... I don't really know how to handle the disappointment. I don't want to tell him about it--I don't think he knows, really, unless it's from some subtle non-verbal signal I'm giving him, because I haven't told him anything about it yet. I wanted to make sure that any time we spent together was platonic in nature until I knew his status for certain, and, if it was available, then I could talk to him about going on real "dates." Argh. I'm lonely, and now I can't seem to get past the fact that he's the only one I'm interested in and can't have him. Won't have him, and he won't have me. I don't know too many guys that are available--most of my male friends are married or in relationships or have been well-established in the "friendzone" for some time now with no opportunity of moving out of it. Oh well. Que sera, sera. I guess it's time to grieve. I don't want to. I don't want to hang onto it all, either. I don't know what I want to do, but I do know that I was up all night last night crying about it and bemoaning my sorry lot... It felt great, awfully cathartic and liberating. I feel a lot less burdened by it now, just... Sort of empty and sad. Hmmph.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 There are other guys out there that hold these values (probably not many according to some people), just be patient and one will come along. You seem to have your morals in place, which tells me you can make mature decisions. Make sure you don't pursue this guy, he is in a commited relationship. Cheers!
FELIZE Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 You've said it yourself, he's committed, and has a partner. Why are you waisting your time? feelings? thoughts? and energy on this man. If you want him as a friend and he has agreed to this, Dont ruin it by telling him you want more. Find someone who really is available to you, because he's not! You can do it Super!!!!
Author superfreak Posted October 19, 2006 Author Posted October 19, 2006 I appreciate your responses. I am feeling a little bit better about things now.
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