anto0o Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 to make a very long story short... me and my girl friend have been going for 5 years and 6 months...we love each other to death...4 months ago we broke up and she told me it was for good...she wouldn't pick up and of my calls or my IM's she said to stop calling her that she will never ever ever ever come back...devistated i was...but after 2 months when she returned from vacation(i did the NC thing) she im'd me late at night saying she still loves me but can't have me as a boyfriend because theres no future in us...so we keep talking on aim and i end up meeting her at her house...she gets into my car and shows me pics of her vacation...one tihng led to another we got back togehter and i was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO happy...i changed my ways with her...she made me a whole bettter person... 2 nights after we arrive at a hang spot together...and boy everyone went crazy when they saw us together...all our friends cared for us and wanted to see us ahppy and knew we belonged together...so they were extra happy to us together...but later on that night a friend of mine tells me something i didn't wanna hear...he says she takled to him while she was on vacation and told himt ath she had a crush on one of my friends and tried to get with him...but didn't cause her feelings for me were so strong! i flippped i told her to get in the car and to tel lme everything...after denying she confessed to everything and started crying devasted like no other...she started shaking and acting a fool...she would try to jump out the car...she woudl jump on my lap while i'm driving...but i made it clear to her i didn't want her anymore.. the next day she would call me non stop to see whta i was doing...i picked up every call cause i know how it feels when someone doenst' pick up the phone whe u really wanna hear there voice...but i also told her i'm doing this s oshe could get over me and move on... couple of days go by and she calls up my friends to see if they wanna go eat...and of course she was hoping i would be there which i was...we ended up bieng together at the end of the day and i told her i still didn't want her...she cried and went home...when she got home she IM's me saying she can't take this anymore and is gonna drive intoa wall or something...i drove to her house and saw her still there...so i waited till she left...I FOLLOWED HER ON THE HIGHWAY ON THE STREETS DRVING LIKE A MANIAC!! i finally caught her taking her sister to the gym...and i told her listen follow me to my house and we'll talk...she agrees...we start talking and i tell her how i feel...that i don't trust her anymore but i still love her with all my heart...she says she will stay in if i don't go out to win m ytrust i agree...and we get back together... we go strong for 2 months...till this past week on friday she ask's me i was gonna go out on sat...she said only if you are..i said no i'm not she says okay i'm not either..i said okay cool...so on sat she calls me and says shes gonna go get a hair cut with one of my friends...i was shcocked. i didn't know what to do so i bailed out...i broke up with ehr...i know i took it to the next level but i felt that way i couldn't get hurt...and i put my pride up...the next day she calls me and trys to get back with me...my pride wouldn't let her in...even though i cared alot for her... so we talk 2 nights later and i say i want her back...she says she doesn't want me back and that its over...that shes had enough...so i leave her a message and she leaves me a message after i go to bed saying...i really want u back i just want u to trust me... i still give some nc for 2 more days and i couldn't take it anymore...i give her a call and she won't pick up...i leave her a message saying whats the deal between me and u? she said shes done with me and wants to move on...i was devasted...so i walk to her house 5 miles in the cold...i ask her to come downstairs and talk to me...she does...she stoof far away but lil by lil she came closer...insisting she wanted "space" and that its to much...at the end of the night she put our heads together and she kiss's me...but i knew it was from her heart...i smiled and so did she...and when i was leaving she looked back... then she would not talk to me again..right now she doens't pick up m ycalls and started talking to a guy that she says she could relate to because he just broke up with his girl of 4 years...i know this guy is a real prick because he asked her to have sex with her 2 years ago...but he was still with his "girl".shes becomming a tottaly different person...she bad mouth's her best friend...she doens't go to school(shes veryyyy into school and wants to be a dentist)... cause i think they hang out together...but i'm willing to give her the world and she knows i'm very loyal to her...but she says she just had enough of it...her family loves me to death...and hate her talking to any other guys...(shes veryyyy into school and wants to be a dentist)...it gets me sad because we just broke up 2 months ago and shes doing this all over again...she knows she won't be happy with another guy...especiially if hes a prick...why do girls think like that?
SurvivingHB Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 There is too much history between you and her right now. It is too hard to rebuild the trust and I would recommend you to start NC and try to heal. You will only get more hurt staying in hope. I went through the same thing with my exbf and ended up really brokenhearted. Try to get away from her and clear your mind. Just my 2 cents.
Author anto0o Posted October 17, 2006 Author Posted October 17, 2006 its not a trust issue like that...its more of jealousy type thing...we both do the same thing...like we don't want each other hanging out without each others company...i do trust her...like right now even though shes ignoring me i know she thinks about me because her family says so and she calls around to see where i am...even found out she called my mother to see if i was home..i want to do the nc thing but its really hard...what can i do to prove to her i did something stupid...i love her alottt and want to be with ehr forever...and i know she loves me too...just mad at me...thanks
gfto Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 to make a very long story short... me and my girl friend have been going for 5 years and 6 months...we love each other to death...4 months ago we broke up and she told me it was for good...she wouldn't pick up and of my calls or my IM's she said to stop calling her that she will never ever ever ever come back...devistated i was...but after 2 months when she returned from vacation(i did the NC thing) she im'd me late at night saying she still loves me but can't have me as a boyfriend because theres no future in us I didn't need to read any further than this. Her interest level in you has crashed to the point of no return. You should have ignored the IM's and simply disappeared. Find a new girl.
Confuggled_one Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 i know what situation you were in.. and i think you should just try NC and move on too.. maybe you shouldnt have been so quick bout droppin her.. she seemed to try really hard to get back with you but you kept on denying it. if i were her i would do the same thing. just think about it but right now try NC... you know she wont be happy.. and you know her the best.. she might come back again later.. just be more trustin next time
Rooster_DAR Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I didn't need to read any further than this. Her interest level in you has crashed to the point of no return. You should have ignored the IM's and simply disappeared. Find a new girl. Ditto! I agree here as well.
Author anto0o Posted October 18, 2006 Author Posted October 18, 2006 Ditto! I agree here as well. she said that so that she has a reason to be mad...so that she doens't feel bad for having feelings for my friend...which last ight i found out thats the cause again...she has feelings for a jerk...a player...but she'll learn, i talked to her for a few hours last night...and she changed her attitude towards me alot...i could tell she still loves me a lot...but thinks this new guy is better...time will tell...but i will not contact her. it hurts alot but i have to be strong i'll keep updated and i'll write the whole story ater when i'm not at work
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