higherground5 Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 So I have a question about a girl that I've been dating for the past three months, and have been together with for a couple of weeks. At the beginning of our relationship, I mentioned I wanted to take things slow, and she sends me an email or a text every day or so saying things like how i make her see stars or how she can't wait for another experience with me etc. These are all good things. So this is the same girl who broke it off with her bf for five years about 5 months ago, and she mentioned she fell out of love with him way before she broke up with him. This is when I started worry about me being a rebound..hence which is why I want to take things slow. Anyway, lately I get the feeling she's in love with me, but I don't know if i trust her feelings. If she says I love you to me, what should i do? Stand guard or open up completely? Any help would be greatly appreciated.. Thanks, Forbin.
samsungxoxo Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I think she likes you a whole deal, falling in love does take lots of time, some people never really fall in love. Just be patience and never pressure her to say something she doesn't really mean. If I was her and you pressure me to say "I love you", I would go running out the hill and dissapear.
amaysngrace Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 So I have a question about a girl that I've been dating for the past three months, and have been together with for a couple of week You two are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, where everything is wonderful and rosy. Which is why neither of you have exchanged "I love you"s yet...because you aren't really even sure if you do at this point. Do you feel like she knows you well enough to tell you that she loves you? Or if she were to say it, would it be she loves what she has seen so far but it is far from who you are totally? Three months into a relationship is not really enough time to know somebody well enough to make that call...or to say those three words...IME.
Author higherground5 Posted October 17, 2006 Author Posted October 17, 2006 I think she likes you a whole deal, falling in love does take lots of time, some people never really fall in love. Just be patience and never pressure her to say something she doesn't really mean. If I was her and you pressure me to say "I love you", I would go running out the hill and dissapear. Agreed-I'm thinking she just likes me a lot, which if she does say "i love you", then it's making me believe I am a rebound because shes moving really quick with her feelings. On the other hand, maybe they are true. So you don't think it's possible not to love someone within three months? I mean I'm head over heals for this girl, and sometimes i do feel love, but i don't want to come out and tell her that because I won't be a challenge anymore. Also, I haven't been pressuring her at all--I've been giving her space, tons, and I haven't brought up any feelings--even those about simply "liking" her. I told her actions speak louder than words. Do you think I should dismiss what she says if she does tell me she loves me? How do I play it off without giving her a sense of rejection? Forbin
samsungxoxo Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 If she one day were to her you that, then just tell her what and how exactly you feel towards her.
Author higherground5 Posted October 17, 2006 Author Posted October 17, 2006 You two are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, where everything is wonderful and rosy. Which is why neither of you have exchanged "I love you"s yet...because you aren't really even sure if you do at this point. Do you feel like she knows you well enough to tell you that she loves you? Or if she were to say it, would it be she loves what she has seen so far but it is far from who you are totally? Three months into a relationship is not really enough time to know somebody well enough to make that call...or to say those three words...IME. I'm pretty confident that I do love her, but I wouldnt come out and say it. I'm very stern and I've created almost a barrier to make it challenging for her. Considering she did just get out of a lengthy relationship, taking it slow was the route at which I took. I'm doing quite well keeping my space, but it's driving her crazy--it's definitely increasing her attraction to me. I mean I've acted as myself when we hang out--no change of standards, no pretending, no changes in lifestyle--I'm just being me. If she said she were in love with me, then it's based on what I've done and how I've acted, which is exactly who i am. So with that said, and if I am in love with her, should I respond with I love her too? I just don't want to let my guard down and have her take advantage of me just in case her feelings aren't true. Any thoughts? -Forbin
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