torn21 Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years. We live together and things were great for about 2 years. Then I realized how our relationship worked and that it wasn't what i wanted. He goes and does as he pleases without any complaints or questioning from me. I trust him, so I don't see that him going to his buddies' houses is a big deal. He's never done anything to give me second thoughts on trusting him. But for some reason, he has a real problem with me going out with my friends. I turned 21 in January, and I don't see a problem with me going out with my friends to a bar or club every once in a while. For 2 whole years, I have sat at home by myself and waited on him to get home. Now don't get me wrong, it's not like he's gone every night. But still enough that I would like to have my own friends to go out with whenever he's gone. I have also never given him any reason to not trust me. Yet for some reason, he has serious trust issues with me. I have tried everything I know how to get through to him that I'm not happy with the way our relationship is and that it needs to change. I recently started college and I took a psycology (human relations) class just to see if maybe I couldn't learn something that could help us. But it just seems like I'm the only one trying to help our relationship change without either of us being uncomfortable with the changes. So I think, but I'm not 100% sure, that it may be time to end it. I really care about him though, and I haven't been able to bring myself to go through with it. And it's been 6 months. I'm beginning to go crazy, and I can't imagine going through the motions any longer. I love him, to an extent. And I know that he loves me, to an extent. But I don't think that it's really "LOVE" and I don't think it ever will be. So pretty much what I'm looking for is a good way to get out without either of us hating the other. I want a "good break-up", if there is any such thing. So if somebody could please help me, I would appreciate it more than you could ever know. Thank you!!!
Guest Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 please, talk to him first and try and fix it. this was ONE of the issues why my ex and i broke up. i didnt trust her either and it bit me in the ass because she started talking to a guy the day before she broke it off. she just got fed up with EVERYTHING, and when we got into an argument, she talked to this guy and broke it off with me the next day. she said she was unhappy for 2 months already, we were together for a year. youve been unhappy for 6 months, so u needa talk it out first because a relationship is based on communication, but if you are fed up with it, break it off now before you find somebody else and hurt him real bad. it just happened to me this week. so its still fresh to me and she was my FIRST EVERYTHING. so please, talk it out first to see if you guys can fix it. she use to tell me she loved me soo much, then 1 week later, boom, she broke it off. it hurts, and i dont want anybody to go through this, so yea....
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