Lonelystar Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 Is it normal to feel jealous of other couples. I have recently broken up with my ex boyfriend and every time I go out I see couples all around me and it makes me jealous and sad. I don't know if it is so normal to be digusted of other peoples happiness. I know it is wrong, but I can't help it. Is there ways to deal with that? Have you guys gone through similar things or am I the only weirdo with this problem?
uncertainofwhoiam Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I too have had a had time seeing couples who are happy and in love - even holding hands. It makes me instantly think of my boyfriend who just left me 11 days ago. I am hoping it has to be normal. Not sure how to deal with it - and think in time it will go away - it has to - everything reminds me of him - certain cars - other couples - argh - I think it is all part of the stage in a break up.
D-Lish Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 Well.... welcome to the single life! yes, seeing happy couples all around us is the bain of the singles existance! "I'm so happy, look at my perfect marriage, here I have a wallet full of pictures of my kids for you to see- aren't we a happy fertile family?" "My boyfriend is so wonderful..we're getting a puppy..." It's nightmarish! When you want something- or are missing something, it seems inevitable that everything stands out to remind you of what you don't have or what you wish you had. Is it normal? Completely- yes. Does it make you a bad person? no, of course not. It makes you sensitive to your own plight at the moment. Happy couples don't get us "singles".... D-Lish
simon_uk Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 It is perfectly normal to feel that way, I do it all the time. But remember, what you see is only superficial. Underneath that loving exterior there may be problems you are unaware of. One of them may be cheating or physically, mentally or emotionally abusing the other. Dont take everything at face value and assume everybody is perfectly happy.
theadventure50120 Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I think people take things for granted when there in a relationship , and it's also like the saying "you don't know what you had until it's gone" because when it's gone you realized what you did have for that period of time and it sucks. Me on the other hand i went into my last relationship thinking each day was the last and then still took it badly because it came true even though i was expecting it =/
simon_uk Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I think people take things for granted when there in a relationship , and it's also like the saying "you don't know what you had until it's gone" because when it's gone you realized what you did have for that period of time and it sucks. Me on the other hand i went into my last relationship thinking each day was the last and then still took it badly because it came true even though i was expecting it =/ Well I think it is true that you get what you focus on. Perhaps next time focus on positive aspects instead of negative.
littlekitty Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 But remember, what you see is only superficial. Underneath that loving exterior there may be problems you are unaware of. One of them may be cheating or physically, mentally or emotionally abusing the other. Dont take everything at face value and assume everybody is perfectly happy. Very good advice. And you reaction is normal. You probably see nothing but romantic ads, notice all the love scenes in programmes more. Just like when someone is say trying for a baby, they see babies everywhere, all the baby adverts jump out at them.... same thing.
Guest Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I totally feel the same way. It's kind of sad because sometimes I would rather stay home.... by myself then hang out with my friends and their boyfriends. It seems like when I do I just go home feeling worse. When I do see couples I always wonder if they are really happy or just acting happy. So, it's not crazy....not at all.
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