bigmil Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I've been dating this great girl for 5 months. We've had "the talk" and consider ourselves to be exclusive. I think about her almost non-stop and I want to talk to her everyday but I don't want to seem smothering or desperate so I don't call. She doesn't call much and will seldom e-mail me. I initially thought she had a low interest level in me but everytime we talk and get together it's great -- she seems very receptive and we're very physical -- ususually spend the night together at least 2 nights a week. I told her I wanted more communication and she did start to call more but I when I have a gf I like to talk to her daily. Everytime I call she answers or calls back immediatly and sometimes we talk for hours but I can't understand why she isn't calling me everyday. I'm used to girls calling everyday. She told me that she has been accused of being "distant" by others in the past because she doesn't feel the need to call people often. So I've attributed her lack of calling to her personality rather than a low interest level. Do you think my assesment is correct here? I'm particularly interested in hearing a girl's opinion as I've already got a lot of advice from guys.
IpAncA Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 Well I don't see anything wrong with it. If she doesn't feel the need to call you all the time then she isn't going to. But I think that if you like talking to her everyday and she knows that then I don't see any harm in her calling you a little bit more often. Now the reason that I didn't call my boyfriend a lot of the time was that I didn't want to lose him and I didn't want him to think that I was to attached and clingy. Yeah I did call him sometimes, but not everyday. Now I did talk to him more when we ended up really getting serious then I did. Hope that helps.
clynn Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I think it is more her personality than an indication of her interest level. She is probably secure and independent. I'm sure that over time you will start to communicate more regularly. I wouldn't worry about it one bit. Or, if she is like me....she likes the guy making the moves. That way she doesn't have to feel insecure by putting herself out there.
Author bigmil Posted October 17, 2006 Author Posted October 17, 2006 yes Cynn you are correct -- she is VERY independent and strong. She does everything by herself -- she says she doesn't like having to rely on anyone for anything. I usually ininiate everything but she is always receptive. When she doesn't call I feel insecure I guess and wonder if she's thinking about me too. Sorry that sounded wimpy but it really bothers me sometimes.
stillafool Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 When I was dating (before I married) I never called guys. One I was head over heels for and we were seeing each other 4 times a week but I never called him and always waited for him to call me. I don't know why but I think it's because I didn't want to be smothering. Later when he started dating someone else and told me he thought I didn't like him because I never called or made an effort to settle him down. Well damn if you do and damn if you don't.
gfto Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 My gf and I never talk on the phone, and everything is great. Don't worry about it. Sounds like she's a strong, independent, classy woman who doesn't feel the need to talk EVERY day. I don't see the problem. Incidently, how did "the talk" happen? Who brought it up first?
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