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I just want an opinion. She made my curfew at 11 o clock although I have my license. When she sees me on Myspace she says " the bad guys are gonna get you". When I attempt to have soda past 8 o clock, she doesn't let me have it, because ill be up all night. She wont let me stay on the computer past 10. She won't let me see R rated movies although Im 17. When Im over someones house, she demands for a parents phone number. And when I don't listen, my Dad lays down the law. Are other Moms like this?

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I just want an opinion. She made my curfew at 11 o clock although I have my license. When she sees me on Myspace she says " the bad guys are gonna get you". When I attempt to have soda past 8 o clock, she doesn't let me have it, because ill be up all night. She wont let me stay on the computer past 10. She won't let me see R rated movies although Im 17. When Im over someones house, she demands for a parents phone number. And when I don't listen, my Dad lays down the law. Are other Moms like this?

 

A little strict maybe, but certainly not unusual and very refreshing. You are fortunate to have caring parents looking out for your best interests. I'm guessing you also do well in school, don't get in much trouble, plan to go to college, aren't worried about a teen pregnancy, and are not into drugs or alcohol. There will come a time in your life you'll be more appreciative of their discipline. Probably when you see how some of your "free to do as they please" teen aquaintances turn out.

  • 2 weeks later...
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hooray for the reply. i'm a mother very strict kept my kids out of trouble stayed on my daughter 24/7 and just 6 weeks ago she told me to go to h---. i am very devastated and depressed. i raised my twins by my self all my life no husband no child support and i get them into good colleges and both have a's in high school. my son who is her twin brother was also left out in the cold he says " ma just leave her be she has lost her sanity" if it wasn't for my son i don't know what i would do. she went so far as to pay an electric bill then go to the bank and claim forgery, she sent me a card and pin number for her checking account and then claimed i stole her money. i spent over 2,000.00 dollars to get her into college this year and she was the one who told me to go jump. since then i changed my house locks and my home phone number etc. i need some answers and wish i could get over this so if your parents are strict they just mean they want the best in the world for you don't shut them out it is a struggle to raise kids and they don't come with instruction manuals..

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I just want an opinion. She made my curfew at 11 o clock although I have my license. When she sees me on Myspace she says " the bad guys are gonna get you". When I attempt to have soda past 8 o clock, she doesn't let me have it, because ill be up all night. She wont let me stay on the computer past 10. She won't let me see R rated movies although Im 17. When Im over someones house, she demands for a parents phone number. And when I don't listen, my Dad lays down the law. Are other Moms like this?

 

No not all Moms are like her, only the very good mothers act the way your Mom does. She loves you and only wants the best for you. It isn't easy for her to go around monitoring everything you do and trust me, she would rather be doing a hundred other things. When you grow up and look back on this you are going to cherish her for the Mom she was. I use to hate my mom until I turned 21 and realized she was the best Mom in the world when I found out how little some of my friends mothers cared about them.

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You're one lucky kid. There are even more strict mothers out there.

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Wait. One day she will be in Rest Home and then you will have your revenge:cool:

 

If you know she can TRUST you not to appear covered in vomit, drunk and pregnant at 3 oclock in the morning with police eascort...tell her so. Without freedom there is no sense of responsibility.

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She made my curfew at 11 o clock although I have my license.

 

What time do you think it shoudl be? Keep in mind new drivers and night do not go well togeather. Proven fact the later he hour or the more people in the car the more likely a new driver is to get into an accident.

 

When I attempt to have soda past 8 o clock, she doesn't let me have it, because ill be up all night.

 

Has this been proven to be true?

 

When Im over someones house, she demands for a parents phone number

 

Not unresonable to want to be able to get ahold of you or the adult where your at.

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I'm the first guest poster.

 

17 is a rough age. Almost an adult, but not quite. No matter how good your parents are, you won't appreciate it at this age. Parents, please remain steadfast despite your childrens tempers. I HATED my parents control at that age. Now that I'm older, I wish they'd have had more control of me. It would have kept me out of trouble. I turned out OK mind you, just not as good as I could have been.

 

Parents, you can't use only discipline to mold your kids. You also have to monitor and control their environment, activities, peer group, etc. Successful kids are many times involved in a lot of activities. This is because their free time to do mischief is kept to a minimum, and their peer group is primarily limited to go getters with high standards. It's hard, time consuming, it can be expensive, and it's no guarantee, but it's the only thing we can do.

 

Also, try not to get divorced. It can have a very bad impact on children. If nothing else, it seriously reduces the amount of time and attention you give to raising your kids.

 

I had to learn everything the hard way, but you know what they say.

 

There are three kinds of people: The ones that learn by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence and find out for themselves. (Will Rogers)

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I actually have two very different opinions on this. My mom wasn't very strict i've done many drugs, partying since I was 14 and lost my vaginity very young, obviously learn't all my lessons now (other than staying away from partying :p) but I am very strong when it comes to dealing with things and defenetly know the hardest tings in life.

Sometimes if parents are extrmemly strict I think it will sometiesm casue ppl to turn out in a "fairy tale world" is what I call it. Your oblvious to the harsh world, unable to deal with "real" tough situations.

If don't know the harshness of the world you live that fairy tale life, which might not be bad to you but i defiently don't want to be in a "bubble" to the world.

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I have a 5 and a 2 year old daughter, I would do the same thing. I want my kids to always be safe and be level headed adults and she wants the same for you.

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Only good moms do what yours does. You will be glad she did. She will save you from many heartaches later.

If she didn't care she'd let you do whatever you want. It is harder to be strict than to let your kids run amuck.

Go give her a hug.

  • 4 weeks later...
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she loves you and wants you to be safe. she just cares about you.

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Wow so many agreements...I'd say she doesn't do anything out of line but seems too strict to me...and a bit controlling. The myspace part is really hillarious tho...bad guys are gonna get you? lol tff.

 

Incidentally what do you mean by your dad "laying down the law"?

  • 3 weeks later...
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Hey there i'm 19 so I know how you feel i'm around your age.

 

Look your mom may seem off the wall but think of it this way if she didn't demand all these things that means she doesn't care. Parents have a weird way of showing how much they care.

 

Here's a tip for you dear, if you abide by your mom's rules. You'll see in a couple years where she's coming from. Also if you give her what she wants she'll let up a bit and a trust will be earned and soon enough she will give you so many more privledges.

 

Give your mom a break she seems to care. Take a look at her side even though its easy to play the "I'm almost an adult give me freedom!" card. I'm 19 going to be 20 and I still have to call my mom if I'm going to miss curfew by a few minutes. This gives her reasurance and she treats you more like an adult.

 

Also for the curfew past 11 thing, how many years have you been driving. For the first year is a probation year and you do have a curfew of when you can or can't drive.

 

Trust me dear follow your mom's advice she'll be happy she'll make your life easier and soon she'll give you more mobility.

  • 2 weeks later...
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A little strict maybe, but certainly not unusual and very refreshing. You are fortunate to have caring parents looking out for your best interests. I'm guessing you also do well in school, don't get in much trouble, plan to go to college, aren't worried about a teen pregnancy, and are not into drugs or alcohol. There will come a time in your life you'll be more appreciative of their discipline. Probably when you see how some of your "free to do as they please" teen aquaintances turn out.

I think she loves you that's why she wants to save you from any danger and there are more strict mothers in around then your mother.

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