Guest Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 Okay, So me and my BF broke up about 1 mon & 1/2 ago. We really do love each other but we had been fighting alot...... Alot like everyday. Basically over little thing like me coming home to dirty dishes and his friend hanging out all the time. Things that I didn't have to make a big deal over. I lost my father about 19 months ago suddenly to a massive heartattack. Two days after his 55th birthday. So, I kinda went into a depression and took my BF on a emotional rollercoster with me. Anyways, We broke up because he said I need to deal with this on my own now. He had done all that he could to help me..... he doesn't feel like there is anything he could do to help me with now. Which I was pissed and hurt about at the time but I have realized so much with the breakup. I just don't really know if our relationship has any hope. I mean it was really hard for both of us to let go of eachother. I mean... We had our problems but we Love each other to the fullest. We've cried together and he calls my brother and mother to see if I'm doing better. When I eventually moved out I was Very Depressed. I lost 13lbs and didn't stop crying for like 2 weeks. So, he knew that I couldn't talk to him at the time because it just made me more depressed. So, he would call my brother like 2 times a week and my mother twice untill I told him I don't want any contact with him about 2 weeks ago. The NC thing was going good up untill Saturday at like 1:30A.M. when YES..... I called him. But it went really good. We both cried and said that for some reason we could both fell each other miss the other. That might sound weird but it's true. We talked for like 20 min and we both cried and said we missed each other and loved each other. He recently moved out of our old apartment and still has my comforter and pillow case, which are Very Girly, on our bed. He also took some of my stuff I left behind to his new place. He also tells me that he's not going to talk to any girls he just going to focus on his Djing career and he just wants me to focus on getting better. But when I ask him if he want's to be with me in the future he says he doesn't know. So, I'm a little confused. Help anyone?
Summer2000 Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 I think what he means by saying he does not know if he wants to be with you or not, is he is scared that maybe you don't want to be with him.. Actions speak louder then words, if this guy calls your mom and your brother to see how you are, then it sounds to me like he cares very much for you.. He brings your blankets to his new place to live and uses them.. That should tell you right there he loves you and wants you back.. It seems to me, that you don't know if you want him back.. So maybe you should take some serious time to think and see what you want.. As I hope you don't go back to him for the wrong reasons.. Everyone on this website has had a broken heart and it seems to me that you want this man to wait around and beg for you to come back but you are the one that is unsure here.. You left him since you had to get some things fixed in your life before you were able to deal with a boyfriend.. Please think about what I am saying..
Guest Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I think what he means by saying he does not know if he wants to be with you or not, is he is scared that maybe you don't want to be with him.. Actions speak louder then words, if this guy calls your mom and your brother to see how you are, then it sounds to me like he cares very much for you.. He brings your blankets to his new place to live and uses them.. That should tell you right there he loves you and wants you back.. It seems to me, that you don't know if you want him back.. So maybe you should take some serious time to think and see what you want.. As I hope you don't go back to him for the wrong reasons.. Everyone on this website has had a broken heart and it seems to me that you want this man to wait around and beg for you to come back but you are the one that is unsure here.. You left him since you had to get some things fixed in your life before you were able to deal with a boyfriend.. Please think about what I am saying.. It should tell me that he loves me but I have this problem with overanalyzing everthing. I second guess everything. I do know that I do want him back. I love him with all my heart. How does it seem that I don't know? I'm not mad at your reply I just really would like to know why you think that? I don't want to go back to him for all the wrong reasons either. I only left because he made me leave but he did it because I need to work my issues out.Help
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