Sonic_chaos Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 Hiya.. last girlfriend just before we broke up.. i had the old love sickness and i knew that it was love then... ive recently been out and about and met a girl who i could go as far as saying "is the other side of me" soo much like me and can talk about virtually anything.. Somethings i never could with anyone at all. She has basically said she loves me something crazy. it hasnt put me off at all. but i soo want to feel the same way. but ive been hurt so many times lattely i think ive got my guard up and dont wanna let it down.. i know she wouldnt tell me she loved me and not do so i know she is sincere. Ive known her about 2/3 month and no cross words have been said as of yet. altho we dont see each other for a few days at a time.. it makes it more special when we do see each other tho the weekend etc.. should i be expecting the sickness or could it never happen? and if so is that a sign? i think alot to do with it is all up in my head.. i like her loads and would do amost things for her. if she is "the one" then i would be more the happy at this point in time to say.. yep she is one of the people i would say i could still be chatting crap to in the old peoples home...
josie54 Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 Yes, this is love, for now. But you can have no idea, at this point, whether it's love "forever." At less than a month, you've barely gotten to know each other--know each other's quirks and habits. The only way to know if this is good for the long term is to continue to enjoy her company and see her regularly. Check back with your question in this post after you've been with her a year. If, by then, you know what annoys you about her and you still feel like you could see yourself with her in the old folks' home--then it's long-term love. If, in a year, her habits and quirks are driving you crazy so you can't see yourself with her in the next six months, let alone the next 60 years, it's not. At this point, though, you're still addicted to the initial "love rush." You can't know anything until that subsides and you're back to reality.
Author Sonic_chaos Posted October 16, 2006 Author Posted October 16, 2006 yea i fully understand i cant tell if its forever love but im hoping, its the first person ive really connected with properly.. one i could and have told her things i couldnt do anyone else.. my question was more if everyone was the same in regards to the feeling sick or if it was completely individual. I think ive kinda answered my own question in retrospecte. even tho others inputs are good from another Point of Views. from a personal point of view ive felt that sick feeling before with my last gf so i want the same so i know.. even tho i care for her loads. im that type of a person that wants to mean "I love you" not just to say it. i wouldnt have gone as far as sex if i didnt like her at all. thanks for ya comments Josie
Kamille Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 what do you mean "love sickness", "sick feeling"? I don't understand if it's something that makes you feel good or bad... And I'm worried that you might mean that in order for you to know that you're in love, you need to feel, well, uh, tortured by it. like love is toxic in some way. well love is chemical, but the chemestry can take various forms. I know that for a long term relationship, I would rather the chemestry make me feel great then sick. might you be unable to recognize something wonderful because of a previous experience that was intense and passionate?
Author Sonic_chaos Posted October 17, 2006 Author Posted October 17, 2006 im just going on previous experieces.. With my last GF which i was almost positive i was in love with,for about 4 weeks constant i didnt feel like eating, which is very unusual for me. I normally have a very good appietite and will eat most things, but i just didnt feel like eating.. It slowly pasted after a while. I put it down to love sickness. i havent had this so far and i feel about the same now as i did then + possibly more as this one aint a pain like the other was. Soooooo glad im outta that one! Seems like its a individual thing, im just gonna take it as it comes. See what happens
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