samsungxoxo Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 Ok so I lied to my b/f about something stupid and at the same time something private I don't wanna shared nor get ito details. I mean, everyone has their moments of privacy don't we???? It has nothin to do with school nor our relation nor my friends. I made up a story,which he relaly believed. Only later I told hm I lied about it, which he got kinda mad off course. By the phone when I asked if he's getting over that he say yes, but when I asked if he's still mad about it, he say "Yes, kinda, a bit". He say I should have just say it's private instead of covering it all up and making things up. Geezz, this is already getting me kinda piss, if he's getting over it, then he shouldn't be mad about it anymore?? What should I do peeps??
burning 4 revenge Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 It wouldn't bother me to find out you were born a man, but most guys are sensitive about that sort of thing.
Walk Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 Interesting... since he's not over it yet, then you're mad at him for not hurrying up and forgetting about it? You broke his trust. However long it takes him to heal from that is how long it takes. But I really don't feel you have a right to get upset that he isn't on your time line for "getting over it". He seems to be trying... And he's right.. if it was private, just say "It's private, I'd rather not discuss it." How wold you feel if he lied to you? Take a moment and think about how you would feel if the situation were reversed, and he had lied to you about something he didn't want to talk about with you.
fishtaco Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 Agree 100% with Walk. Plus lying is bad period. It's worse when you do it for no good reason, it shows the lack of respect you have for the other person. Once you break the trust, it takes 10 times the effort to mend. Sometimes with people like me that drags around baggages, you won't get a second chance.
Ross_K Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 I guess it's better to tell people you'd rather not talk about it, or it's private, or it's personal, etc. Instead of making up a story, Ailec. I know there's times where those answers wont work, and you do have to make up a story if it's a very tricky situation, but if you can avoid it, then it's better to do that. Since he still feels a bit mad at you, he can't be over it.
Author samsungxoxo Posted October 17, 2006 Author Posted October 17, 2006 Good news, he's already over it!!!!!!!!!!!
Mythical Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 ok, I mean I guess I don't know what you lied about so I cant say exaclty what I think, but if my boyfriend lies to me about even something stupid it kinda bugs me because it is disrespectful to lie to anyone.....it would be different if you were just keeping it from him and he found out (because it was personal) but you went out of your way to construct something that wasn't true. From his point of view I think maybe he just feels you might to it again or you arn't taking his feelings seriously. Don't worry though, just explain and apologise and he will have to get over it.
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