cljackson Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 I need help!!!!! I just got married 9 months ago. I have a daughter that is 6 and one with my husband that is 7 months. He has a daughter that is 6 from a past marriage. I really do not like his ex-wife and his daughter acts just like her. My in-laws give her whatever she wants. His ex calls and they all jump and go out of there way to do whatever the ex needs. They really don't do anything for my baby or me. It makes it really hard to accept her in my family. Even my husband seems to be wrapped around her finger. my husband is in the military so he has missed the last 5 months of my baby life and he seems to worry more about his other daughter. What can I do?
jonesgirly Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 The most important thing you can do, is to NOT blame the child in this situation. The adults, yeah, they should be held accountable for their obvious lack of sensitivity. But never, ever, should you (as her step-mom), blame the child. I've been a step-mom, twice. I currently have SEVEN step-kids. Ask me anything!
littlekitty Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 The most important thing you can do, is to NOT blame the child in this situation. The adults, yeah, they should be held accountable for their obvious lack of sensitivity. But never, ever, should you (as her step-mom), blame the child. I've been a step-mom, twice. I currently have SEVEN step-kids. Ask me anything! Blimey, 7 step-kids! You must be run ragged!! Jonesgirly had a great point though. It's not the childs fault. None of what you've said is her fault, it is the adults parenting her, and in her family who are causing you the issues. Have you spoken with your husband about how you feel about this? Often guilt plays a large role in how family/parents deal with their children when they aren't the main care giver. That can be challenging for those of us in a step parent position.
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