Guest Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 I am the OW, the W has an incling about our affair so we have not seen each other or spoke in four weeks. I am trying to get past this, some hours are good, some really are the worst imaginable. Moving on really hurts! It is still hour by hour, not a day goes by that I don't think of him. Will I ever stop loving him?
stillhere Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 That is one of the most difficult thing with A's, the wanting and hurting. Believe me, i know. My MM and I are madly in love. He is afraid to leave his M because of his children, and he's afraid to lose all the things he has worked so very hard for. He says that every day, when he walks into his house, that i'm the one he wishes he was walking through the door with. But on the other hand, that would no longer be his house, because he would have lost it along with everything else. That is what is so damaging and painful. The knowing that you're the one he wants to be with, but circumstances make that impossible. Yes, the pain will eventually subside. It will get easier as the days go by. Keep yourself occupied, go out with friends and have a good time. But leave him be. I'm sorry that you're in so much pain, but i don't have any sure fire ways to make it stop, since i am still in full contact with my MM. Someday i may be asking the same questions as you. Good luck to you.
BenThereDunThat Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 I am the OW, the W has an incling about our affair so we have not seen each other or spoke in four weeks. I am trying to get past this, some hours are good, some really are the worst imaginable. Moving on really hurts! It is still hour by hour, not a day goes by that I don't think of him. Will I ever stop loving him? Yes! Yes, you will. Because at some point you will realize that you don't really love HIM. You love the IDEA of him. I know it hurts. Believe me, I KNOW it does. But it does get better, I promise you!! I know we all hate to hear this, but it's true - time does wonders. Time and space, that's all I can tell you. The more time that goes by, the more you will be able to see things for how they truly are. Good luck. Keep posting. That's what we're here for. Bless.
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