Guest Posted October 15, 2006 Share Posted October 15, 2006 well I graduated a few months ago, class of 2006. I now have a full time job and goto college at night. When I graduated, my father and I where not on good terms, so now I have my own apartment as well. along with a cousin who does not pay the rent or get a job. By the way I'm also still a virgin and have never had what could be considered a girlfriend. I think at least two girls had an interest in be back in high school but they never did more than glance at me, and I could never work up the nerve to talk to them about it. there was one girl that I was very interested in. for about a semester I had set next to her, trying to start a conversation. the following semester me and her AIM'd for a while, even though we did not have any classes together. I brought her a rose on valentines day, and a card at Christmas, I even asked her to senior prom, but she said she had other plans, stopped aiming me and that was the end of it. I don't know if maybe I was just to obsessed with her of if it was because she never told me to the effect that she was not interested. I really don't know. By the way I went to prom by my self and set with all my friends that also did not have a date. but at least they had had a girl friend at some point or had lost there virginity. I even had a gay friend that showed up with a female date. In retro spec I would half to say that my biggest problem would probably be the fact that I really don't get out much. which is also the reason I don't end up meeting to many girls. I really don't like online dating, because it just seems to impersonal (this coming from a guy that works on computers for a living), and if it is not personal then what is the point of this kind of a relationship. Anyway, just wanted to see what people think of all of this and any suggestions are greatly appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
ddnnee Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 i am waiting for japan to hurry up and finish those robotic real life looking girls. wow... a robot girl that can help you with anything, can wikipedia anything you need, give u sex whenever you want, won't bitch or whine... and you can upgrade her! I think i will call her chi........ Link to post Share on other sites
NotKelly Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 Do you have any hobbies or interests? A girl won't be attracted to you unless there's a "you" she can see to be attracted to... often that comes through your interest and devotion to a hobby or a cause or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 Do you have any hobbies or interests? A girl won't be attracted to you unless there's a "you" she can see to be attracted to... often that comes through your interest and devotion to a hobby or a cause or something. I actually do have a hobby working with electronics and computers. But those tend to be very reclusive interests that only seem to isolate me and that brings me back to square one. In fact I mentioned my hobby to the girl I was very interested in. All I really got back was criticism for working on the same device for so long. Link to post Share on other sites
NotKelly Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 I hear you. It's tough when you have solitary pursuits (could be computers, could be art, etc). Have you thought of getting a puppy? (1) can temporarily cut down on your loneliness (by getting your mind off it) (2) if you take the puppy to obedience class you can probably meet girls that way! Also, if you take the puppy to the park, to socialize it, you can socialize yourself as well (because puppies are adorable and everyone wants to see them) Not a silver bullet, just an idea. Link to post Share on other sites
laguy10 Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 Man, I can totally relate to where you're coming from...a shame that men are not taught anything in regards to relating to women these days. Ok, first off, you need to realize that women love MEN - meaning, women are most attracted to a dominant man...just as you, I'm guessing, are most attracted to a feminine woman...it's the opposites in us that draw us together. So, before you start trying to find a woman, find yourself first. Find your manhood. Find that part of you that can take control, be aggressive, and develop it. Once you begin to have confidence in yourself, your relations with women will improve automatically. There are not that many dominant men around these days, and believe it or not, women are checking out men - oftentimes more than men check out women....so you will get noticed, but it will be up to you to make the first move....tons of resources on how to approach (I recommend "The Art of Approaching" - Google it). But before you do that, find yourself. If you feel you need a girlfriend in order to complete your life, you're totally wrong, and if you find one, you'll be screwed, cause women like that will just take advantage of you. Man, so much I can write here, but ask questions, and I'll be happy to share more. Link to post Share on other sites
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