jmargel Posted October 31, 2006 Posted October 31, 2006 I'll think again about a counsellor, but I will need some convincing Then forget it. It won't work. No one on here should try to *convince* you of anything. Until you take responsibility for your own actions and want to fix them only then will conseling will work. Otherwise you are just going, to say 'you tried it'. Hitting your partner is abuse. There is *NO* reasons to *EVER* hit her. Where is your character? It doesn't matter if she's slept with 1000 men behind your back, hitting her *WILL NOT* fix anything. This whole relationship started deceitfully and now it's ending this way. You have been with her 20 years yet you two never married? Sounds like you have an anger problem and just want confirmation from everyone on here that you are right and your partner is nothing but a whore. Well, even if you get that (which I doubt you will) you won't feel better about the situation. Good chance it's the way you have been treating her that pushed her into this direction. If you are so insecure that another guy caught her eye that you did go overboard then you really do need some personal help. I am quite sure in the 20 years you've been with her that another woman hasn't caught your eye and would just like to have talked with her some. In any event this relationship with her started out totally wrong, the character you both shown to your exs are now showing towards each other. My only advice if you want to save this is to both see a marriage counselor. However if she wants to leave, YOU LET HER. If you have this much resent and anger towards her the best thing to do is to let her go. I would much rather that happen then you ever hit her again.
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