skimmy Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Help!! I'm getting in deeper with guy #2 who happens to be my best friend, and I finally am making a decision that to stay with guy #1 is being unfair to him. So, I've decided to break up with him, as painful as it's going to be (he's a very very nice guy and doesn't deserve to be hurt, deserves lots of happiness) I'm not sure what to say, "I'm falling in love with my best friend?" Where should I have this talk, at his place? or neutral ground? I'd love some responses asap because it has to be today...I originally invited him to be with me when I get my first tattoo, but it's a very momentus occasion that I really want my best friend to be at...in 2.5 hours to boot. Help, anyone?
Author skimmy Posted October 16, 2006 Author Posted October 16, 2006 Well, I did it, and it went somewhat better than I thought, though it was still painful...he said we never made promises so it's okay...I asked him if he's okay, he said he'll figure things out...he kept away from me, and on the surface took it really well, but I think he was hurting...I told him, genuinely, that he's a great guy, and I didn't mean it as a line, but he said "I get that a lot" and "great guys usually end up alone" that broke my heart. It just happens that were weren't quite right for each other, at least I'm not right for him (i'm kind of a freaky girl and he's kind of normal) but I really hope he finds someone special and finds happiness. As for me, though it was painful, I'm glad I did it, because I'm no longer torn between two guys, and my man and I are perfect for each other (we're both freaky with character, I love it!) Thanks for putting up with me.
ImInPain Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 I give you credit for being honest I wish mine had been. How long did you have feelings for guy 2 while you were with guy 1? Mine kept telling me guy 2 was just a friend and like a big brother and that he was ugly and not her type and then she just left me for him. She still wont admit it and it makes me very sad to feel that I was sooo in love with a liar and a cheat. Did guy 1 ever ask about guy 2? Did you lie? How long were you with guy 1? Just trying to understand peoples thought process with this kind of thing. Thanks and good luck.
Author skimmy Posted October 17, 2006 Author Posted October 17, 2006 I give you credit for being honest I wish mine had been. How long did you have feelings for guy 2 while you were with guy 1? Mine kept telling me guy 2 was just a friend and like a big brother and that he was ugly and not her type and then she just left me for him. She still wont admit it and it makes me very sad to feel that I was sooo in love with a liar and a cheat. Did guy 1 ever ask about guy 2? Did you lie? How long were you with guy 1? Just trying to understand peoples thought process with this kind of thing. Thanks and good luck. I was only with guy 1 since Sept 1, so we went out a total of 6 weeks...i started having feelings for guy 2 probably about a couple of weeks ago, but guy 2 knew i was fond of guy 1 and was cool keeping it friends...guy 1 knew guy 2 was a friend but never met him, and never asked...like i said, we only went out 6 weeks, we didn't have any heavy emotional/relationship conversations, just had fun times together...my best friend, guy 2, is the one to whom i poured out my thoughts about guy 1...until this past sunday, when guy 2 and i couldn't deny our feelings for each other any longer, i made the decision, with great difficulty, to not string guy 1 along just because i have fun with him. so I guess my period of torment was about 2 weeks or less... I'm so sorry you had to go through that, that your gf didn't have enough character to be honest with you. Good people are hard to find, but I hope you find yours someday.
one_cool_mofo Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 Well, I did it, and it went somewhat better than I thought, though it was still painful...he said we never made promises so it's okay...I asked him if he's okay, he said he'll figure things out...he kept away from me, and on the surface took it really well, but I think he was hurting...I told him, genuinely, that he's a great guy, and I didn't mean it as a line, but he said "I get that a lot" and "great guys usually end up alone" that broke my heart. It just happens that were weren't quite right for each other, at least I'm not right for him (i'm kind of a freaky girl and he's kind of normal) but I really hope he finds someone special and finds happiness. As for me, though it was painful, I'm glad I did it, because I'm no longer torn between two guys, and my man and I are perfect for each other (we're both freaky with character, I love it!) Thanks for putting up with me. you sound like a heartless, evil woman. admit it, you say it was painful...but it wasn't really painful for you was it?
one_cool_mofo Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I give you credit for being honest I wish mine had been. How long did you have feelings for guy 2 while you were with guy 1? Mine kept telling me guy 2 was just a friend and like a big brother and that he was ugly and not her type and then she just left me for him. She still wont admit it and it makes me very sad to feel that I was sooo in love with a liar and a cheat. Did guy 1 ever ask about guy 2? Did you lie? How long were you with guy 1? Just trying to understand peoples thought process with this kind of thing. Thanks and good luck. dude some girls are shockingly evil man. it hurts, but you know that not all girls are like that. that's what keeps you going.
AriaIncognito Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 you sound like a heartless, evil woman. admit it, you say it was painful...but it wasn't really painful for you was it? You couldn't have the OP pegged more wrong if you tried. She's a great person. I happen to know her in real life. And guy 2, he's definitely the one for her. Everyone in the world can see it. She definitely made the right decision, for herself, and guy 1. Jennifer
Teacher's Pet Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I, too, am a big fan of the OP and Guy#2. Very, very neat people. The OP has a cute tuchas, and Guy #2 is fun for a tussle now and then (for you Jim Norton fans) lol -tp sad and demented, but social
Teacher's Pet Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Jennifer! Funny meeting you here... lol -tp Jenn's SB
DanielMadr Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Help!! I'm getting in deeper with guy #2 who happens to be my best friend, and I finally am making a decision that to stay with guy #1 is being unfair to him. So, I've decided to break up with him, as painful as it's going to be (he's a very very nice guy and doesn't deserve to be hurt, deserves lots of happiness) I'm not sure what to say, "I'm falling in love with my best friend?" Where should I have this talk, at his place? or neutral ground? I'd love some responses asap because it has to be today...I originally invited him to be with me when I get my first tattoo, but it's a very momentus occasion that I really want my best friend to be at...in 2.5 hours to boot. Help, anyone? If you want to help him....and your consience.....tell him why you really dont love him. It is not because he is not freaky. He is just too boring...no passion wuss right? Probably only reason he is boring wuss - Normal is that he was told, that girls marry decent normal guys. But he wasnt told the rest.....to tease and torment girls in order to not bore them. And please dont get back to #1 when the second one becomes too freaky.
Author skimmy Posted November 2, 2006 Author Posted November 2, 2006 Hey Jenn and Ev, thanks for the nice words *warm fuzzies* and to everyone else, guy 2 who is no longer guy 2 but my Papi Chulo, he's the best thing that's ever happened to me... :love: :love:
Teacher's Pet Posted November 3, 2006 Posted November 3, 2006 he's the best thing that's ever happened to me... :love: :love: *tearful smile* That is sooo sweet. Makes me think there's hope for me yet. *sighs* -tp 4 months, 13 days without a "warm fuzzy" *chuckles*
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